WAT SHOULD I DO I JUST FOUND OUT DAT MY BEST FRIEND IS SLEEPIN WIT MY MAN BUT I DON'T WANT TO LEAVE HIM CUZ I LUV HIM SO MUCH
2007-09-26 00:23:13 · 21 answers · asked by x3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a few things you need to realize. If she is sleeping with your man, she is not your friend let alone a best friend. If he is sleeping with someone else he is not "your man". This is one of the worst things that can happen to a person and I know how painful it can be. I really feel your pain.
The reality is, you do not have a best friend and you do not have a man. That is very difficult to face but it is the reality. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you can move on to a happier life.
Notify both of them (notify do not confront) that you are dumping them both. This puts you in a postion of strength instead of a position of weakness. You are hurting and feeling weak and the tendency is to try to hold onto something but that something is not really there.
You will be depressed, hurt, sad, angry, mortified etc. All perfectly normal, unavoidable and serve an important purpose. Sever all ties and never enter into a serious relationship with either one again. If you do run into them in the future, always be civil and polite but never nice.
It will take a while but you will one day feel better. Do not dispair. The worst part is at the beginning of the process not at the end. It is bad, gets worse, then begins to ease then goes away. You have to give yourself time to adjust to this new reality. Do not jump into another realtionship too quickly, this retards the healing process. Spend time with yourself and make necessary repairs and improvements.
Finally, you will need to figure out how you made such bad decisions selecting her as your best friend and him as your man. Really look at both relationships objectively. What did you miss? What in her behavior should have tipped you off that she was untrustworthy? Did she talk about other people who trusted her? Was she prone to dishonesty with other people that you knew about? People who do this sort of thing are prone to doing it. You have to figure out how to tell so you don't select such a person to be friends with again.
What signs did you miss in this guy? Was he something of a player with others? Did you think he was really a man of character or did you just want him so badly you were willing to throw the dice? Well, you see where that has led.
You do not love him, you LUV him. This is more a matter of want than love. What do you really want? This kind of dramatic soap opera or someone you can trust?
If you prefer drama, well, you've got plenty. If you are tired of the games and want to be able to grow then take the necessary steps to do so. Divest yourself of these bad investments.
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2007-09-26 00:53:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You CANNOT be serious. How can you love a man who would do the ultimate dis respectable thing a man could do to a woman? What is up with your best friend? I would not have one more thing to do with that girl. That is just wrong in so many ways. Don't believe the sorry they give you. There is no excuse for what the both of them did. Don't be a doormat! Don't let some man treat you like this. If you stay with him that is giving him the green light to cheat on you whenever he wants. Do you think he is going to have any more respect for you if you keep him around? He will have less. You need to kick this boy to the curb. This will continue. If you stay with him you are heading for nothing but heartbreak for as long as you are with him.
2007-09-26 00:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Paula D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then be sure he doesn't love you that much. love is not just loving is also about being loved. if you don't want to comprise your happiness today and in the future leave him and the so called friend cos they are both not worth trusting. It is better to be alone than to have a friend you don't trust. Get yourself a new man
2007-09-26 00:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Progress Trader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch them both. she is not worth calling best friend after what she did. and you don't deserve your man either who easily gave in to temptation. find someone better. yeah, you love him so much, but does he love you also the same way? wake up girl. i know it's hard to do but in the end, i am sure that you will be happy with your decision of ditching them both.
2007-09-26 00:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Eds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly do you know this is fact? have you seen them together coz if you say something to him or her you want to have proof.
I would confront both of them and see what they have to say.
I can't tell you what to do about the replationship if it is true coz thats up to you but i would leave him if it was me, and if it was true and stop talking to the 'best friend'
becasue best friends dont sleep with their friends man.
2007-09-26 00:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by jaineelyse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend and man should know this will hurt you if they treasure u.
Forget abt them giving any reasons to forgive. Dump both.
2007-09-26 02:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, he's not worth it. Why would you want to be with someone who cheats? Ditch both of them - if they can do this to you then they don't really care about you, I'm sorry to say.
2007-09-26 00:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd dump him. A good friend is a lot harder to find than a man.
2007-09-26 00:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by misty_dawn1100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both have broke the "code"....that's just something u dont do, and as far as your so called bestfriend, u've learned alot about her, so it's about time u cut all ties from both parties invovled!!
2007-09-26 01:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by Good Enough........ISN'T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something is oddly fishy about that? lives with her, and courting (snoozing?) with you, hmm..doesnt sound top..he needs to come across a sparkling position to stay quickly, continuously an section with mommy & daddy (or you?)
2016-10-20 03:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋