Im 3 months pregnate with my friends baby, after i broke up with my fiance we slept together for convienience and physical attraction. (not my ex but my friend.) and now he denies the baby and wanted an abbortion.. so im not with him.. But will this take a toll on my daiting life?
2007-09-25 23:35:42 · 19 answers · asked by Samantha D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
dating should be the furthest thing from your mind right now.
you need to be there for your baby and focus on the pregnancy. you aren't going to be a healthy and happy mommy if you keep trying to fill a void in your life with a man.
and besides, not many men out there will date a woman who is pregnant by someone else or they do it for the wrong reasons.
i would wait till your baby is born and at least 6 months old before you think about dating someone. by then you'll have been a mother for a little while and will know what type of person is best for you AND your baby.
good luck
2007-09-25 23:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by prncessang228 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend, I am a Medical Doctor and can give you the best advice. In my opinion the abbortion will be dangerous at this stage as now you are about to enter into the second trimester. So please try to carry on with it. However it will disturb your daiting life anyway. But you know to keep the baby alive you will have to die yourself( I mean to say that you compromise your desires.) This is the secret of life.
2007-09-26 07:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
slept together for "convenience"?? and now he wants the "convenience" of an abortion? HOW CONVENIENT! If it takes a toll on your life in general it will take a toll on your dating life. I wouldn't worry about dating, worry about what you want to do with your baby and the rest of your life. A simple Paternity test after the baby is born will tell him if he is the father or not, you don't say how old you are, but he will be forced to pay for child support, and maybe the ultimatum of an abortion is his "convenient" way of trying to get out of his responsibility. Raising a child on your own isn't easy, and yes, it does take a toll on your dating life as well as the rest of your life. You hold a child's hand for a moment, you hold their heart for a lifetime.
Good luck
2007-09-26 07:03:26 · answer #3 · answered by chefddr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will....drastically. There are a lot of men out there who do not want to date anyone with children. This is mostly bc they are not mature enough to take on the responsibility and have to come second on a regular basis. This will sort the jerks out of your life though. If they decide not to date you bc you have a child, then it is someone that you do not want to date anyway. If they are willing to see you and are mature enough to see that the child comes first and is willing to handle that, then that is the type of man you will want. In a way it is a good thing, bc it does sort the men from the boys right off the bat. There will be less falling for a guy, and then seeing that he doesnt want to be with you just bc you have a child. Almost everything that the child will affect will be in a good way. The few bad things will be that you will not be able to go out as much, and depending on your age, it could interfere with your schooling or work. Babysitters are expensive, but in order to make it, you will have to have a dependable one. Do not th ink that your parents will be babysitting at any time you want them to....this isnt likely. You have to realize that when you have the baby, it comes first and foremost in everything that you do. You have to be able to love and care for it and always put it first in your entire life. You will have to put your life on hold a lot in order to give the child what he/she needs. So be ready for it. It will change your entire life, not just your dating life.
2007-09-26 06:45:53 · answer #4 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mention how old you are, but from your spelling I would guess that you haven't made it out of your early teens. You need to be worried about the life that is growing inside of you & NOT your dating life. You need to decide just what you are going to do with your future & that of the baby. What you need to realize now that you have gotten pregnant is that you are required to grow up fast, your life as an innocent child ends & adulthood begins. Seek professional help!
Good luck to you & your baby!
2007-09-26 06:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by msbg13@verizon.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well samd it all dep on the guy some guys arnt ready some are some are only interested in one thing but their are a few of us that don't mind and are their for you not because of your present condition u just have to be up front with the guy first if they run u know if they stay you are on a winner and he might be the right guy for you pregnancy isn't a disses its a part of life that two people should share the guy that got you in this state well cant say much for him low life as for you keep your chin up and don't be scared of a few rejections it happens
2007-09-26 07:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by bandannaman23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it will. But it wont be forever ...You will have to put your dating life on hold for a few years to raise your child. And you have to be careful to keep your dating life separate from your child until you have met someone significant (e.g. marriage material).
In addition, some single people out there may be hesitant about dating someone with a child. But not everybody. There may also be single fathers out there who will be more accepting of a woman with a child from a previous relationship.
Good luck
2007-09-26 06:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The child should take top pirority in your life from now on. Dating and having a social life should be placed on the back burner. Your going to need all your energy on raising the child.
2007-09-26 06:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sharksblade 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about if men are going to have a problem with you having a baby.
You don't want to date men like that anyway. You deserve the best.. One that loves you and your baby.
Besides this way you can see how good of a Daddy you are going to get- You will be able to tell by the way he interacts with your little one.
So no worries!
2007-09-26 06:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by think about that~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
any baby will take a toll on the dating life its not going to be what it use to be but you will still have one it may just take a little longer to get into a relationship but it just depends on the guy
2007-09-26 06:43:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋