I have got a son who has just started school & it's been on my mind for the past 6 months. If i had another baby would the age differance be a problem? Can we really afford another baby as both of us are on low wages but higher than to qualify for tax credits?
2007-09-25 23:32:32 · 20 answers · asked by The-she 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Mr Teeman, I work full tme & also in higher education, so don't worry am on sponger
2007-09-25 23:38:27 · update #1
no its not to late at all i have a 14 year old and a 7 year old and they adore each other.has for not being able to afford a baby thats realy for you and your partner to decide.but babies dont have to cost the world second hand stuff is fine the only real things a child needs is love and food and warmth if you can provide this then go for it other wise when your to old to have anymore you will regret it .good luck and i hope you make the right decision for you.
2007-09-25 23:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by K H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids 2 yrs apart but there's a 8 and 9 years between my brothers and I.
Stop thinking about money and start thinking about love. You both work but it sounds like you both have a lot of love to give another child which is more important.
As for Mr Teeman he should read questions b4 answering not all parents are on benefits because they want to be and this couple BOTH work. Quit worrying about ur tax money Mr Teeman and start caring about other people. You can't take it with you when u go.
I don't have a choice on being on benefits i was left disabled but desperately working with the single parents adviser to find a way to work from home so i can be BOTH A MOTHER AND A PROVIDER.
So mr teeman don't judge us all as spongers a lot of us are desperate to be both parent and working.
2007-09-26 07:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by LassofLowlander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am the eldest of three my mum had me then my sister when I was 7 1/2 years old and the the youngest when I was 12 1/2 years old and do you know what we all get on great i would chance the age gaps for the world
Now am having a baby and my little sisters is only 11 so she is still younger the i was when she was born which must make my mum feel odd but its not a bad thing
2007-09-26 08:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by emz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello - I had my 4th child when I was 43 - my son who is now at Uni - never have a regretted it - I had a 4 year old daughter at the time and a 14year old and a 17year old (twice married) - my feeling is you can never afford a baby if you sit back and work it all out - but you know there are certain things you dont need and the most important thing you do need is love - so go ahead and enjoy
2007-09-26 07:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by Barbie V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something very sweet in having long age differences between children. I myself have two sisters, 2 years and 7 years younger then me, and a half brother who is 15 years younger then me. I get along great with the 2 year age difference sister, but not so good with the younger one. She was born shortly before the divorce of my parents and she was too young for me to get to know, she was 3, me 10.
Now my brother and I have good relationship. He tends to talk to me about stuff he can't talk to our folks about, which is nice.
About the money....It's not everything. Good to have, but there have been children born with less then what you are able to provide. My feeling is you have a good heart and will support the child, and that is more important then all the money in the world.
2007-09-26 06:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by pettalwing2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really has to be a decision for your self and partner, my hubby and i have both always worked, we have 6 children, the oldest two are in their twenties and the youngest is 5, so as you can see there are differences in age, it depends on how you and your other half feel, the little boy can always be involved in the pregnancy and help with the new arrival, so he doesn't feel left out. I was once told if people waited until they can afford to have children there would never be another child born
good luck with your decision
2007-09-26 06:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi - theres no right or wrong time to have a baby :) Of course, you can be a little more prepared but thats about it! If you and your partner feel ready for another one thenjust do it, youll always find a way to get by. My bro has a low paid job with the MoD and his wife doesnt work. They have 2 young boys and another baba on the way, God knows how they get by but they do. Sending you lots of love and good luck for whatever you decide to do xx
2007-09-26 07:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you can afford to raise another child have one.you will just have to make some drastic cuts somewhere in you present budget. the age difference is not all that much. my sons are 10 years apart and get along with each other great.the older one always had time to hang out and play with the younger one, they became great pals after the second one turned 17, they are closer now than ever.
2007-09-26 06:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr Teeman you have issues with yourself - get over it, what ever it is.
As for the 'is it too late' question - no of course not!
My oldest child is 28, and I have a 14 year old and a 7 year old at home!!
Damn - now you are all starting to guess the age of the H_Chick! Bugger!
2007-09-26 07:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have one if you can afford one... and can dedicate the time to them. Don't worry about the age difference, I have a sister who was born when I was 15 and we get on fine even though I am much older than her! In fact we probably get on better than my other sister who is 3 years younger than me. Only you can answer your question about being able to afford another baby though.
2007-09-26 06:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by JoJi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋