Do you keep in contact with your old school friends?

Question

I have noticed that whenever people leave school, either high school or uni, their social life plummets. Friends become strangers as people who once would do anything for each other don't bother to contact each other, and finding new real friends is a difficult task. It's happened to most of my friends, and I've even noticed it's a popular question choice here. It seems upon entering the workforce it's pretty hard to make new friends, or the same type of friendships you had in the past.
How do you keep in contact with your old friends, if you do at all?
Do you care at all, or do you think it's a problem that you don't?
Why do you think this is? Just growing up and changing? The fact we work longer hours this decade? Or because you don't have school forcing you to mix, and you've never really had to work at friendships? Or simply you don't like your friends/they don't like you anymore?

I personally think it's because you would have more time with each other at school, and you wouldn't be working nearly as hard. In the workforce, you are there to work, while at school, you are free to talk.
This is where things like myspace, facebook, and instant messengers come in handy. You can find old mates, and if you are both online you can talk without making any real effort, like a phone call or letter.

I find that I have to do most of the phone calls and organising when meeting my old friends. Is anyone else like that too?

Answer 1

You are in a really confused state............i can see from your questions. I can understand that you are really missing your friends tooooooooo much and am sorry for that.

Fortunately (touch wood) till now, am lucky enough to still have my friends around me (not physically, of course). We are 6 of us, who formed the peer group at the seventh grade in our school. Its been, 15years and still we stick together whenever we find a chance. All of us, except one are married.

We dont miss any major events in our life and try our best and sacrifice other things to be together. It was a lovely life along with friends. Till date, whenever we meet, though we start our talk by sharing our individual grievances, but then quickly get into old gossiping and we wont realize the time passing by.

The time with friends during school and university days (I would call them the GOLDEN DAYS) are completely different from after those days. Cos, during those days, we dont have any obligations, no commitment, no grudge, no complaints, etc. It was simple friendship and nothing else. I always carry tears (longing tears) in my eyes when I think (even now I have two drops in my eyes) about those golden days.

According to me, friendship is the first love that any individual feel in their life. Though mother's love comes first, but I dont think most of us realize it at that time.

Answer 2

i valued my friends and they were very important at that time of my school years.we have all moved on with work and or familys,marriages and divorces.re-marrying or new relationships and more kids.i occasionally run into a few over the year but iv made new friends at school again being a mum and a parent teacher helper.we were meant to cross each others paths,and sometimes when you have school re-unions you will see them again.some of my friends have died,either before 18-20,due to drink driving,drowning,car accidents,or drug overdose.now we,in our fortys are getting older and have grown up kids and hope they wil live onto a good old age.2 friends died from cancer before they were 30.iv got neighbours who good friends but not like what is was at school,we were more carefree,not now,we talk about yards and kids and bills etc.we get together for kids birthdays and there kids play in my yard or we go play street ball.no clubbing now just a backyard bar-b-q.im glad i knew lots of people and each one was special.hope you have+had nice friends too.

Answer 3

You got it right there at your first sentence, at least that's how it was for me

When I was a kid, I had a busload of friends attending my birthday party and stuff like that. Going into high school, I lost contact with most of them except the ones went to the same school as I did.

Moving on to uni, I only have a handful of friends left.

My social life just shrink as I grow up

I use to keep contact with my friends through phone. But as we grew up separately, we starts to get busy with our own life, from once a month call to once in 6 months, then once a year and somehow we totally lost contacts.

I never dislike my friends. I miss them all. Its just something that bound to happens as we grow up.

Answer 4

I live in Tasmania. I went to school in England. About 5 years ago I discovered a website "Friends Reunited". I am now in touch via email and have spoken on phone with 4 of my very good friends from high school. Its great catching up on the past 30 years.

Answer 5

Most of my friends from school/college have dropped by the wayside. I get so caught up in my own life that I don't really keep up with them. Forty-plus hours of everyone's week is spent chasing the dollar, the rest is spent recuperating. Wash, rinse, repeat. The next thing you know years have gone by and you have a separate life and separate concerns. On the rare occasions that we see one another, we laugh about old times, but that's all there is to bind us anymore, and it only serves to highlight how far apart we've grown from those old days I hear gossip about old schoolmates now and then (who's pregnant or dead or married) but that's about it. Life tends to just go on.

Answer 6

I do, however it's no longer whatever best, due to the fact I graduated handiest 2 years ago. However i like my father's classification, they've left college 32 years ago and so they nonetheless meet at each occasion!!

Answer 7

I don't have that much friend when I was in high school and college. I am just that loner I guess.

But I do and always misses my schoolmates during my elementary days. Maybe because I cannot forget when my schoolmate (I was in Grade 2 then) kissed me on my chic. I got so afraid that time. And from that time on, I tried to avoid him. (That young age?????)

And I do remember my 'secret crush' on that same school. His name is Benjamen Regalado-L. A. Phil. (hey, where are you? he doesn't know about it... hahaha)

Just wondering where are they now. Hope they are okey. I don't have any contact with them.

Answer 8

I do, besides the shown fact that it is not some thing great, for the reason that I graduated in basic terms 2 years in the past. yet i comprehend my father's type, they have left college 32 years in the past and that they nonetheless meet at each party!!

Answer 9

i do...

my friends from high school are actually my pillars of salt... they are just around when you're feeling bad, even when i had that weird dream last night...

i admit i can continue life without them, but it's not as meaningful as now... :)

Answer 10

Actually I do keep in touch with several of my school friends.