husband got pregnant a 15 years old girl?

Question

I knew about this affair,I knew the girl was gorgeous and young,but Gosh-not that young.I forgave him.she was very attractive and seemed to be easy.We separated though.Now he is desperate and says he is so sorry.I don't know what to do?IHe is a good man and he was a good father before this Nadia affair.Call me stupid but I dont want him in trouble.We have kids

well,we had our first kid when I was16.Married me 5 years after.That's what he says.He says i didn't dump you ,I am a responsible man.I should have sent you back to your stupid country.I owe him many things.Don't judge me.thanx

but he was 17 at the time and I wasn't a citizen so it's different.I know he's in trouble now

Answer 1

He is NOW sorry for his relationship with her? He sounds to me like he's scared of the reprocissions. Hon. Move on. Others will be good to you and your kids. He's sorry he got caught in a mess and if this clears up, he will possibly do it again.

Answer 2

Think about this for a minute, you should be able to answer your own question. The man your talking about has done this before, with you. It hasn't stopped. There may be other's.
You said you knew about the affair, so it must have been going on awhile. You need to seek counseling as well. I have three daughter's so I'm speaking as a father, not a husband.

Your husband needs to be punished, and seek help. If he goes to trail and is found guilty he will have to register as a sex offender,He will be classified as a child pedifile, should have a sign in his front yard warning other's I only hope he doesn't get off. He may have planned on leaving you and marring her, ( don't know ). The fact is he got a 15 year old pregnant, and you have only one choice I can see. Leave him, and seek counseling immediately. Remember you were 15 when you started sleeping with him.

Answer 3

hi sweetheart look he had sex with a minor how would you really feel if that was youre daughter that was in that position ,you would be swinging base ball bats at the man that did this to youre daughter ,he is bang out of order he is married to you a father ,im so sorry if im up setting you im not trying to ,im just trying to get you to look at the other side of the fence as this is how other people will be looking at this ,it doesnt matter how pretty and attractive this is still a kid ,and he should be ABLE TO CONTROL WHAT IS GOING ON IN HIS TROUSERS AND PANTS !! this is a very poor excuse ,and you must see this to i can understand that you want to stick by him ,in a away for youre kids sake but come on ,what are the kids going to hear his actions are now causing a rippling affect and it is not going to miss anyone that cares about him , im also going to add he had better realise how good a wife he has because if i was you in this situation ,im sure he would have found out what it feels like to be belted between the legs with either a pair of high heels or a base ball bat i would not be able to say that i would take him back in this situation ,please for youre sake think long and hard what you really want to do with him ,good luck and take care xx

Answer 4

Being sexual with a 15 year old girl is a serious felony in most states if not all. I know of someone who was with a 15 yr old girl (he was around 30) and he got 6 years in the Oregon state penn. Your husband DESERVES to get in trouble. Why do you want to protect such a scumbag?? How a man with kids could do that is just incomprehensible. He is a child molester and you really need to get rid of him!!! Don't you watch Dateline's "To Catch a Predator" with Chris Hansen? These perverts know what they're doing is wrong but they do it anyway because they think they won't get caught. If you let him get away with this, then you are enabling another child pervert.

Answer 5

You're right, your children do come first. Normally, anything you wish for yourself after you become a mother falls to the wayside. But this goes way beyond being married to a jerk who leaves the toilet seat up and doesn't take you on vacations. He may be a good man and a good father in your eyes, but good husbands and fathers don't make conscious decisions with malice aforethought to do something that will ruin more than his own life. This ruins not just his, but your life, your children's' lives and this girl's life. For him to do this, there is something wrong with his faculties. You don't have to be vindictive or get him into trouble. But you need to protect yourself and your children from this man and the ripple effect of his poor judgment. Even if this was the only indiscretion he ever has, the effects are far too devastating and PERMANENT for you to allow yourself to remain in this situation.

Answer 6

Time for some serious counselling, NO?
it will take years ... I would suggest a behaviorist psychologist (they're used to results), or a "reality therapy" Christian psychologist.
If you want answers, changed behaviors and a chance with this fellow of low morals, (really really low), then he will have to work at this change probably a long time.
But, if you love him and think that having had children together means more than his infidelity, then it will have to be a type of counsellor who actually befits character change. I never cheated on my girlfriend (gorgeous is no excuse, except for selfishness).
But, in reality, I would suggest taking your kids to church, stay there and find a man who is a little more pure hearted than that fellow of ill repute.

Answer 7

Leave him to rot!! You are better off without him. If he wants to be a good father then it is up to him to make the effort but your kids do not need you together to be happy. Would you ever really trust him again regardless of whether you say you love him. Sounds like he could end up in prison for under age sex.

Answer 8

Where do you live? In you live in the US, there’s nothing you can do to keep him out of trouble, because an adult having sex with a 15-year-old is illegal in every state. He SHOULD get in trouble.

If you want to forgive him for the affair, that's your choice, but it's not the choice I'd make. The fact that she's gorgeous, easy, etc didn't make it any more right.

Answer 9

What you need to do is lose the loser and think about your kids. I mean come one he slept with a 15yr old and is now having a baby with her... Hello one time be dumb and take him back but 2 3 4 and so on girl you need to wake up and think about your kids. Do you really want them to grow up in that kind of enviorment. Stop thinking about yourself and how you think he loves you because he doesn't. Move on and let the bastered alone.

Answer 10

Too bad that you don't want him in trouble. If I were that girl's parents he'd be in prison for statutory rape. A man who would do such a thing to a CHILD of 15 isn't a good man or a good father...obviously he wasn't thinking about HIS children when he was phucking a 15 year old CHILD.