So i fell in love with this girl, and i have never gotten the chance to go out with her or be with her. She has told me that there is no chance we will ever go out, and she has no feelings for me. I need to get over her and move on with my life. We have been close friends for a very long time, and it would suck losing her. But does the friendship go above my feelings and my life?
2007-09-25 19:12:04 · 10 answers · asked by Littleslaveton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Find someone else and then you can still be friends with her.
2007-09-25 19:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you need to really sit down and evaluate your feelings. Yeah, I know it's not very manly but hey, do you have any other choice? Once you are sure about what you want from this girl then you have to confront the situation. Do you value her enough to be friend with her. IE: Would it hurt more to be without her completely or to be able to be there for her as a really good friend? From there then you need to decide on your action. If you have decided to stay friends tell her as such. Let her know you still have feelings for her but she means so much to you that you are willing to put that aside and focus on friendship. If it would harm you emotionally to stay around this girl, again you need to tell her. Let her know that while you enjoyed your friendship, it hurts you to stay around and not be able to express how you really feel. If she cares about you AT ALL she will understand either way.
2007-09-25 19:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by gamergeekchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starters, i'll just say that im sorry - this is not an easy question to answer, nor is it something that is easy to live with. to be completely fair about it, i'll say that the "right" answer is probably different for everyone, though i believe that there probably is a universally correct way to go about it all. to begin, you just have to accept what she has said as fact, as much as it might hurt to do that. as much as you might feel for her, its never going to be enough to change her mind for her.
you are right when you say that you need to get over her and move on with your life, though that is not always as easy as it should be to do. if you are as close as you say you are, then it shouldnt be but more of the same to stay close friends with her throughout this ordeal. that being said, it might be best if the 2 of you gave eachother some space while you sort things out on your own, especially if you find that your feelings persist.
in my experience, feelings like this never really go away. if i am so certain that i feel a certain way today, chances are im going to feel similarly down the road. id hope that you can find someone else who makes you feel the way that she does, as this would definately help the process along considerably, id think. and if you care about her as much as you say you do, you should be able to sacrifice your personal feelings, and in turn respect hers (or lack there-of)
ive been where you are more times than i care to count, and its not something id wish on my worst enemy. id hope that you can get over this quickly, because the long-term effects of a situation like this can be pretty damaging. good luck to you both in dealing with this, and i hope it works out for both of you
2007-09-25 19:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by staceysmom321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine you are able to fall in love formerly seeing/assembly the guy. I met a female friend on line and we all started speaking on the phone and that i replaced into very a lot in love with her, formerly she got here to ascertain me the first time. It does also grant you with extra to communicate about once you do meet because you recognize one yet another.
2016-10-20 03:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah dont do that. that happened to me before. i started liking one of my best friends. but i was so close to her i didnt want to like avoid her.
make best of what you got. its the closest you might be able to get. until you move on of course. but when you move on, there will always be a part of you with the sam feelings, but you comprehended a more reachable goal so it wont hurt as much.
2007-09-25 19:19:50 · answer #5 · answered by Nevena G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having her friendship since you care so much about her is better than not having anything with her.
2007-10-03 16:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be freidn wit her still be avoid talking to her and seeing her till you feel that your ready to move on, or find some one new will do the trick cause you some one else on your mind and u will soon 4get her
2007-09-25 19:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by crazylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move ON!!! may be u oughta with sumone who deserve u better.. plus if she really a true fren u wont lose her..
2007-09-25 19:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by Faithless1612 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ,you can't just through your friendship away.remain friends with her you never know what could happen..
2007-10-03 10:30:14 · answer #9 · answered by amy m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
k hipponoses... jk move on i have this same prob. have a friend tell u see dosent like u
2007-10-03 15:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋