I usually go out with boys my age.now there is this woman I know.I don't really like her and I don't like her looks.there are things going on.I won't be very specific,you know.Not much.Just happened.
look:I wouldn't do to her the things she did to me but I had that feeling you know.something I had never felt before.strong indeed.I think about it all the time and i feel guilty and ashamed
and,though I've never seen my boyfriend naked,I saw some pictures,men,you know,and I freaked out.didn't like them.
am I,you know,a lesbian?
am I still a virgin?
2007-09-25 18:41:33 · 6 answers · asked by E W 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are young it is just your body doing what it is suppose to when stimulated. I really doubt you are a lesbian. Don't dwell on it, it is in the past.
2007-09-25 18:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by oldhag 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lesbian is a word, and words are rarely adequate to describe the complexities that exist within people, so my advice would be don't even consider the label "lesbian" relevant or valid. The meaning of the word changes with whoever uses it. You could call it a preference, behavior, a thought, whatever.
You are what you are, a human being, and it seems like the real question here is why you feel ashamed. Our society is a bit conditioned to look at you through a different lens if they attach the word "lesbian" to you, and I think that (among many other labels) is a real problem.
You will be healthier and happier if you judge right and wrong on your own feelings and not how you anticipate being seen. Maybe you're doing that, but either way, I think you should just shed thoughts aside from what you want and what you believe here. Unless you're causing some unnatural harm to someone, I think most of your guilt is based on guilt you've been conditioned to feel.
2007-09-26 01:53:39 · answer #2 · answered by messenger_of_the_void 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, at first i would have said that just because you try something with a woman it does not make you a lesbian. you are just exploring your sexuality and there will be things that you like but wont necessarily do in return, which is fine. but, then you brought in the point that you did not like the physical aspect of a man. i know that finding ones true self can be really hard, but we must question ourselves. you should see how you compare and contrast your likings towards men and women in all aspects. and with whom you would feel more comfortable with. lastly, dont feel like youre alone, i have no idea where you live, but there are hundreds of lgbt resource centers across the country that would gladly help you with any questions that you have. good luck
2007-09-26 01:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by luna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably aren't a lesbian, but it sounds like you have some sexual confusion.
Stay away from her. Get some counseling if you feel you need it. Don't give up your boyfriend.
I can't say if you are clinically still a virgin. That is for a doctor to say. Take your time, be patient with yourself. This isn't as unusual as you might think it is, and the experience IS very confusing if it's the first time you've had it.
2007-09-26 01:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I doubt it. It sounds like you were aroused but that doesnt mean anything. It just means someone is makeing you feel good. Doesnt mean you are attracted to the person.It doesnt sound like your a lesbian. Lesbians are attracted to women and have no sexual desires for men. Sounds like you like men fine. To be honest though, your the only one that can say wether or not you lesbian. If you dont think you are then your not.
2007-09-26 02:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Steffie_crumpet89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you are a teenager right??
2007-09-26 01:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by My ♥ Is In The City By The Bay! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋