Is it normal for me to never desire sex, now or in the future?

Question

I do not desire sex, intimacy, or to have a husband. I know this is not normal. I have bad experiences with male figures and cannot trust them. I do not like male attention, it makes me very uncomfortable and disgusted. Please no rude remarks, I am only seeking information. Thank you.

I am not a lesbian, I am not attracted to women. :-)

Answer 1

No, of course this isn't 'normal'.

However, it might be 'normal' for someone in YOUR situation to feel this way. Don't worry about it. If this is the way you truly feel, then go with it. We all have our hangups in life. However, if you feel that you are missing something (and I think you are....) then seek a professional's help. Most counties have low-cost mental health centers where you can talk to a therapist. I'm not saying you are a nut-case, but sometimes it helps to talk about stuff.

Answer 2

This is complex and beyond the scope of what yahoo answers can provide.Plus you did alluded to mistreatment from men , so this will be complex and difficult to answer.

Take everything i say with a grain of salt .Check to see what fits if not discard it .Also no matter what seek some therapy. No you are not a nutjob but you have been hurt .

The bad experiences with males could be anything that you do not like males sexualy to you were sexualy mistreated and or assaulted sexualy .

There could be something hormonal going on . Testosterone is the sex drive hormone in both males and females . Females have 1/10th amount of testosterone that males do. Many women are testosterone deficient and fall below the 1/10 amount . To test this theroy out try a female herb called fenugreek . Fenugreek will not get you all super testosteroned out but will raise all your hormones very slightly . Be aware if you take fenugreek that you may need something weather it is a toy , a boy , a boy-toy , a girl or something close at hand .




Do not take this as an insult . you might have lesbian sexual orientation.

If not you might have come from a very religious background .

If you are a lesbian and come from a deaply religious background that would be a source of conflict .

Hope this helps .

PS other herbs that might help are daminana(spelling)

and low dose tribulus.tribulus if low dose will not cause staggering amounts of testosterone in women becuase you need testicles for tribulus to get large amounts of testosterone from it .A females ovaries can and do produce small amounts of testosterone .Tribulus will boost testosterone but only in a proportional matter . Do not get tribulus blends unless you enjoy looking like a man .(tribulus blends often have extra ingreidients that inhibit estrogen production , talk to a knowlegable herbal nutrtionist or nutrition store representive )

Answer 3

Nothing wrong with your situation. If you are under 30, I think it is normal not to care for sex too much. Once many women turn 30, they go into HORNY MODE. If you are 30 and above and not care for sex, maybe not very normal. I mean, you should get the urge once in a while, but never? Are you straight or do you like women a bit? Sorry, no offense.

Answer 4

It's not normal, but I don't think you're weird. I've known people like rhis, though I must say it's mostly women and AFTER they're married with children.

Speaking of it, that's the one thing you didn't mention. Do you ever have a desire to have kids?

Many women these days want kids, but not the husband and sex to go along with it.

Answer 5

It's certainly not uncommon for women with negative hurtful memories such as yours to have no sexual desire. The lack of interest is not a problem on it's own, but it's telling you that there's something deeper going on. It's your body's way of telling you to concentrate on loving YOURSELF. You need to see yourself as the beautiful, worthwhile, unique person that you are. Get with a good counselor and/or support group. Find a way to nurture yourself. You deserve it! Best wishes, my dear. :)

Answer 6

if you don't desire contact, that's your choice. a person can abstain without quitting forever. forever is a long time.

sex is a risky thing, in this day and age, what with h i v and aids still lurking out there. so you are safer, if anything. a person need not estrange the world in order to be safe. it is so difficult to find the right person and do the right thing but when you least expect it the right one gets here.

to "forgive and forget" is one of the hardest things to do when you are left with hurt. i wish you the strength to surpass this stage, in your life, and find genuine happiness along the way. most of us know your pain. i wish you a healing and peace of mind.

Answer 7

no its not normal

judging by what you've said you have issues with males in general and sex specificly.
you could see a conselor and/or sex therapist to work with you on this.

they will ask some personal questions that I won't ask here but are important and need to be answered

Answer 8

you're just not ready for a relationship. some guys are aS$ holes and you found this out the hard way. I think maybe you're not comfortable around guys because of the way some of them are. We're not all like that.

Answer 9

Why would anyone want to be normal.

It isn't freaky, but it isn't normal either. However, when the brain is abused, it remembers and protects itself as it has to. However, that doesn't mean you won't heal in the future.

Answer 10

You are what is known as frigid. You should seek counseling for it. You can't let your past rob you of your future happiness.