my fiance is really stressed. he was grouchy all day and now he just called from work to say he was sorry for being grouchy, that he is just so stressed out because of work, he told me that he is worried about supporting our family because he is on call for the next three months and he doesn't always get called in for 40 hours. i don't know what to do for him. I'm 26 weeks pregnant tomorrow and we are super excited. We planned for this baby and everything and he is super excited to be a daddy to his son. I work part-time (30 hours) plus go to school full-time. I told him everything would be ok but I just don't want him to feel like this for the next three months. what can i do to help him so he's not so stressed? It makes me sad to see him like this.
2007-09-25 16:49:09 · 10 answers · asked by Supermommy!!! 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if you love and support each other things have a way of working out, seriously! you planned for the baby so don't let the stress take away from you happiness at creating a family together, when he gets home have a nice meal waiting for him, something he likes and let him know how much you love respect and cherish him for being there for you.
its important for men to support their pregnant women but sometimes men need to hear these words of love and encouragement as well. i know that when i take the time to tell my husband how thankful i am for everything he does, he goes away feeling alot better, and maybe, just maybe while he's stressed at work he might remember that I am home, waiting for him, and still loving everything about him :)
2007-09-25 16:58:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kitterkat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone. My hubby (who has a daughter fro ma previous relationship) is starting to get alittle stressed. I am 27 weeks preggo too. I am excited and nervous too. I work in an office and my hubby sells cars. I try to work a lot but it is hard since I am so tired and nauseous. His check isn't always guaranteed since it depends on how many vehicles he sells. He is stressed because it is so slow in the business now. We will be okay, money is tight and I can sense his stress. He is crankier than me !!!! As you said he is also happy to be having a son now he just is scared he won't be able to provide for all of us. All I do is tell him how important he is to us and that I know he is trying hard. Also like you guys we are both doing all we can with what we got. Just do your best to stay positive and don't put pressure on him ( I am sure you are not, but just try not to add any guilt or pressure to him) little back rubs now and then also ease the stress and also sharing in those little baby moments(little kicks!!) Good luck to you guys....you will be fine, just stick together.
2007-09-26 00:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Lexie J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men tend to get like that whenever they are going to be a father. It's natural. And..it's actually a good sign for you because you know he is in this with you and he is worried about supporting you and the baby!
When he comes home have him something to eat. Don't hit him when he first comes in with all your griefs of the day. Let him have time to chill out a while before you talk about anything serious.
It's going to be ok. Just let him know you are there and that you are in this together. Let him know he doesn't have to be a millionaire to be a good daddy :)
2007-09-26 00:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by busemomme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all realize that this is part of becoming a parent. He is thinking about providing for you and your new baby. He may need some time to think it over on his own. Sooooooo, if he retreats and becomes quiet, its ok, he's dealing with, let him do that with out lots of questions about what's wrong and all the things we as women want to ask. He'll come back out when he is ready.
Try to keep spending to a minimum, when buying all the cute little outfits, get what you essentially need. Leave the rest for a different time.
Just keep encourging him, telling you love him, and looking to the future with bright hopes and dreams.
Here's to a Healthy Happy, Beautiful Family!
2007-09-26 00:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by silly_me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is acting up similar....I try to always speak as "WE"=Baby and I LOL...
I send him text like "We love you"..."we are proud of you"...just reassure him that you love him and stay calm...do a nice meal and try to find time to go to movies or some hubby together...something simple but that will take worries away for a while....also make sure your hormones are under control LOL no yelling or going crazy...give him some little space.
Stress is difficult to remove like that, is part of being a Father...You guys will do just fine...Congrats!
2007-09-25 23:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by peach_tree67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he comes home give him a good cooked meal, something cold to drink, give him a massage every once in a while, just be there for him and show him you care. It will be more stressing later on, my husband comes home stressed almost every day, they have a big responsibilty to work hard.
2007-09-25 23:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by kittie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a smiliar situation, my fiancee just got home from being deployed for 6 months, he was deployed for the majority of the pregnancy. They best advice is just to let him know your there for him to lean on. Just simply be supportive and always there for a hug or a reasuring smile. As long as he knows your there for him, theres not much more you can do.
2007-09-25 23:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEE, MY HUSBAND FEELS THE SAME WAY. I THINK MEN HAVE A HUGE RESPONSIBILITY WHEN THEY ARE TRYING TO SUPPORT A FAMILY.
ALL I DO IS TELL MY HUSBAND THAT OUR BILLS ARE ALWAYS GOING TO BE THERE!! THERE IS NO NEED TO STRESS.YOUR HUSBAND IS JUST TRYING TO BE A GOOD PROVIDER. CONSIDER YOURSELF LUCKY, BECAUSE SOME MEN DON'T CARE.
MAYBE A NICE BACK AND SHOULDER MASSAGE WILL HELP RELIVE SOME OF HIS STRESS. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS TELL HIM HONESTLY HOW MUCH YOU APPRECIATE EVERYTHING HE IS DOING, AND HOW GOOD OF A JOB HE'S DOING!!
GOOD LUCK
2007-09-26 00:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by c_bearortiz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do everything that you can to make him happy :-). Be extra supportive for him. My husband was like this.
2007-09-25 23:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by jessiemae8403 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. He has to do whatever it takes to make himself feel better.
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2007-09-25 23:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋