abortion info?

Question

i have made my decision already so please dont lecture me here- i already have a priest.
i am 18, on an athletic scholarship in college, and 6 weeks pregnant. if i dont participate in my sport i will more or less get kicked out of school. i need to have an abortion this week. i know the pill is less invasive, but i've heard the surgical one is 'cleaner' in that the aftermath wont be as hard to deal with, and bleeding will be lighter and not last as long. i need to be back and able to play within no more than three days after the abortion. please any input? which should i do?

it was with my fiance, who i had not seen in months (hes in the military), i medically had to come off the pill because i was sick, and the condom broke. please dont tell me i didnt try to prevent this and be resonsible

thank you to everyone who has been so supportive. i have kind of been in this on my own, your opinions and encouragement have helped ease some of my concerns. thanks

Answer 1

I would recommend the surgical. At *best*, the pill will take 2 days. Surgically, it's over very quickly. They don't let you leave until they're sure everything is fine, so you get some peace and finality that day. With the pill, you may find yourself questioning everything your body is doing and driving yourself nuts for 2 or 3 days, and that would be way too much anxiety and paranoia for me (plus there's the risk of needing a surgical anyway, which I'm sure is uncommon, but still). The surgical was nowhere near as difficult or painful as I thought it would be, and if I had to do it again, I would go the same route.

I had mine done at 3 wks. Because it was so early, I probably got off very easy with the aftereffects. I had it done at noon on a Friday, felt completely groggy and slept all day. On Saturday, I was much less groggy--basically fine, but weak and a bit unsteady. By Sunday I was back to normal. The bleeding and cramps were like a normal period. BUT, I wasn't trying to play sports or be active at all--you probably *would* be able to play 3 days later, but I really wouldn't push it to the limit.

I made my decision, and my peace with it, before I went in. I think that's key. I wasn't happy or proud about it, but I have never regretted it for a single second. If you have faith in your decision, you won't have the guilt and self-hatred that some of these people try to scare you with. More than anything, I felt great relief, and an overwhelming sense of gratitude that I live in a place where--for now--abortion is legal and safe. I made a decision that day to do what I could to help it *stay* safe and legal, and I hope you do the same. I applaud you for having the guts to post, because questions like this really attract all the judgy types on here (who knew there were so many?). I wish you strength and peace -- you'll be fine.

Answer 2

In my opinion, you should have the surgery. It's a simple procedure where you have a vaginal exam and then the contents of your uterus is 'sucked' out. You may have some bleeding, but not necessarily. Your doctor should put you on antibiotics following the procedure (to prevent any infection from tiny nicks or cuts in your uterus/cervix from the procedure) and you really shouldn't need more than one day off for the abortion, especially if you only have a 'twighlight' anesthetic (you won't remember anything, but will still be conscious, and don't need the 12 hours off that you do need when you have a general). I would make the appointment as soon as possible - you only have six weeks until most doctors will no longer perform an abortion. If you want any more information or just to talk about it, feel free to email me :-)

Answer 3

I have heard the same as you, plus the pill requires a follow-up visit to Planned Parenthood or the doctor to see that it all came out OK

I know two women who had (surgical) abortions on their lunch hours and went back to work, home to their husbands and kids who never knew. One of them I know ran her usual 3 miles the next day. The physical pain is no more than a period cramps. There is bleeding, of course.

Now, I AM NOT LECTURING, but I will say the reason I know these women is through abortion recovery ministry at my church. They both regret it very very much. Please be completely sure you can live with this decision beyond the fact that a baby doesn't "fit" into your life right now. That is what these two thought as well.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I would recommend the surgical one. I think you'll recover very quickly, especially since you're young and healthy. Don't listen to people trying to make you feel guilty. I am pregnant but a little older than you and i decided to keep the baby. Some people judged me for not getting abortion. There will always be people judging you. It is your choice, and you are not killing anyone, abortion is legal. And nobody has the right to decide for you. Good luck.

Answer 5

You don't NEED an abortion YOU WANT ONE. Don't use that as an exscuse. Im seventeen years old, pregnant and IM taking a semester off from college so I can have a healthy baby. Yes life afterwards is going to be hard, dealing with school and a new born, but that is the choice I made when I decided to have sex.

Grow up, you're selfish and only thinking about yourself. You do know there is a beating heart inside of you now. Your not just taking some cell out of your body. You are killing an unborn HUMAN.

If you didn't want a lecture from anyone, you should not have posted such a "hot topic" on yahoo. you asked for any of the rude comments you are recieving.

Answer 6

the surgical one is what i would recommend.it is alot faster ,and recovery is also. i had one done and was able to do my normaal things a day or two afterwards and no one could ever tell that i had the procedure done.you must wiegh the risks on both though.make the right choice due to the risks.i didnt have any problems witht the surgical one,but have heard many horror stories. good luck and hope everything turns out ok for you.

Answer 7

The procedure is out patient. You'll go in (try to have a friend, family member, someone you trust drive you and wait for you), get prepared, they'll knock you out, and the next thing you know you're awake in recovery. It all takes 3-4 hours and you'll be fine when you leave. You'll have some spotting for 1 or 2 but you'll be able to go back to normal the next day. I felt no pain and only had to wear a maxi pad during those weeks. And don't listen to anyone's opinion on what you should do. It's your body and we're lucky to live in a time when women have options that are both safe and accessible. Good luck.

Answer 8

i think of its incorrect at that degree in being pregnant, i had a miscarriage at 22 weeks and that i had 2 provide delivery to my little female then bury her and yea on the interior she wasn't totally shaped yet on the outdoors she appeared like all different known toddler

Answer 9

i would go with the surgical. the medical can take up to 2 weeks to start working and involves a lot of pain and bleeding. with the surgical, it's over within minutes with minimal bleeding and pain. plus, you can opt to be put to sleep. i support your choice and don't let any of the anti-choicers get you down. they only care about your fetus, and they'll stop caring once the cord is cut.

Answer 10

This information from Planned Parenthood explains the scientific facts about things

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/abortion-4260.htm

But please be advised of the emotional strain that the abortion may have on you, as well as all women are different and healing times from ANY procedure vary, you may not be up to play anything in three days afterwards.