Why do homosexuals say that they were born gay?

Answer 1

...um, because we WERE. Weren't you born straight? Heterosexuals can't possibly say that we WEREN'T because they haven't gone through the same experiences. You couldn't possibly understand what it is like unless to KNOW from experience that you were born with your sexuality because as a straight person, you don't think anything of it. You just go on your merry way...but all gay people go through some kind of inner turmoil because of their sexuality in their life. We ask, "Why me?" We wonder how we became the way we are because we are different--straight people don't ask such questions because they have no reason to. Eventually, every homosexual asks, "Why?" The answer is, "This is who I am, and I've always been this way."

Now, let me ask YOU something. If we weren't BORN this way, then how exactly did we become gay? Studies have proven that environmental factors have asbolutely nothing to do with eventual sexual orientation. Do you think we would CHOOSE to be gay at some point in our life? If so, let me ask you this: Why would we deliberately, conciously CHOOSE something that would ultimately not allow us to get married or adopt children, something that would make us shunned by religion and most of society? What, exactly, would be on the "pro" list for choosing homosexuality?! NOTHING! If you believe it is a subconcious choice, don't you think we would have made the CONCIOUS choice to become straight a long time ago? If it WERE a choice, why would homosexuality even exist at all? Who would choose it?

I tell you this: I didn't choose to be gay. I would NEVER choose something that would put me through all the inner turmoil I've had to go through. I'd NEVER choose something that would cause people to hate me because of one single, defining triat. I DID NOT choose my sexuality, and looking back on it, I had ALWAYS had an affinity for the male body more so than the female body. I've tried everything from praying to Jesus to my own sadistic form of shock therapy to "change" myself, but nothing worked...and eventually, I came to accept my sexuality as a blessing from God. A blessing that has made me more understanding and compassionate...a blessing that has given me REASON to fight for the equality of every single man and woman on this Earth. And now, if given the opportunity...if some magic pill was released that would turn any gay person straight, I wouldn't take it. I've finally learned to become proud of who I am, I'm not going to let those life lessons go to waste.

So please, before you ask more questions, really think before you speak.

Answer 2

Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, who published a series of booklets in 1864, who first coined the term homosexual. The term was incorporated into the English vocabulary just before the turn of the century. Ulrichs suggested that homosexuals are normal people, that homosexuality is inborn, and that sexual relationships between members of the same sex are based on love. He went on to argue that homosexuals should have the right to marry one another.

Myth #1: Homosexuality is only a chosen lifestyle.
Common sense suggests that an individual does not choose a homosexual orientation, because it is unlikely anyone would consciously choose to be vilified and denigrated by centuries of persecution. Some women and men have chosen to be lesbian and gay for various reasons, but the majority of homosexuals don't choose to have homosexual attractions; it is simply a fact of their existence. Research on gay men shows that sexual orientation occurs long before conscious choice is even available for an individual's action and/or awareness.

Answer 3

What makes you think that we weren't? Most of us know from a very young age, even if we don't acknowledge it until quite a bit later. I didn't work it out until I was about 15, but looking back, I can say that I always have been. Since the time I was four, I can remember having crushes on girls but not recognising them as such. Now you tell me, is four old enough to make a decision about one's sexuality? I think not. So it couldn't have been a choice could it? What other possibility is there? The way we were brought up? I was brought up in the same house by the same parents as my brother and sister, both of whom are straight, so that scraps that theory. What do you think? What other possible causes are there for homosexuality?

Answer 4

Because we were. And I don't buy the environmental factors as playing much of a role, not given all the people I've talked to in my life, and all the different situations they grew up in.

I was born to be a certain height, and while nutrition played a part in reaching it, I would never have been 6'4" upon reaching maturity.

I was born to have a certain vocal range upon maturity. It didn't happen until maturity, but environment would have played little role in its pitch.

I was born to have a certain skin color, and while I can influence it somewhat by staying inside or going outside, it will never vary that much.

Do you see what I'm getting at?

Answer 5

Because that is how we (gay people) feel.

This question has been asked in this forum so often that it has become boring... Why don't you just go and check out the resolved questions dealing with issue rather than asking again. It's like re-inventing the wheel over and over again.

It seems that anytime someone wants to get a rise out of the gay community they come here and ask the same old question.

Do heterosexuals feel that they were born straight?

Answer 6

Nobody is born attracted to a certain look or gender... it's something you develop from situations as you get older. example: if you grew-up in an area with mostly white people you would probably find them attractive. I'm not saying it's because we were exposed to it, it's just a feeling. Just like you couldn't stop yourself from loving a person, gays love who they love and they shouldn't have to live alone or get made fun of because of other peoples ideals.

Answer 7

It must be true. I consider myself a bi man. I had girlfriends and really enjoyed them all from when I was about 15. It seemed that I had a closer connection though with guys. More comfortable in their company. At 30 I met a guy and instantly knew that when he asked me to be sexual with him I jumped at the chance. Dare I say here that it was one of the best encounters I had ever had. It felt so right. Since then I have found men far more attractive than the girls.

Answer 8

In most cases, many would say they were born gay because it is something they feel like they truly cannot change and have no control over what-so-ever. It's apart of themself that feels like their personal identity. It is part of who they are. However, in a way, I think I might have subconsciously chose to be a lesbian. to this day, I'm not quite sure why but to me, I was attracted to guys in my earlier teen years. I guess my sexual preference had changed because of some experiences that I had. but that's just me.

Answer 9

Because it literally has a genetic and nurturing basis in almost every person that has the trait. Almost every homosexual person in this world has a genetic propensity to the trait. This is why it was taken out of the psychological text as a disease: It's almost always innate.

Answer 10

While most people say that they are "born gay" they usually mean that homosexual are born with a greater biological predisposition to be Gay, bisexual, or lesbian. Now this does not mean that biology completely explains homosexuality many other factors such as sociological/ psychological factors serves to more adequately explain the reasons for sexual orientation.