Why are so many women so anti-porn? Since getting on YA I am amazed by the number of women who totally freak out whenever the topic of porn comes up and I just don't get it!
A little background- I am a happily married 35 year old woman who enjoys an occasional adult movie in the privacy of my own home. Sometimes my husband and I watch them together, sometimes we don't.
Before someone gets all religious on me I want to state that I am a Christian, and I consider sex to be a wonderful gift from God to be enjoyed and explored, not something to be ashamed of and demonized.
And no, I am not some sick guy with free time on his hands trying to get people all riled up. I am asking a serious quesion! Feel free to check out my past answers to questions involving sex and you will see this is is consistent with what I have said in the past.
2007-09-25 15:47:52 · 31 answers · asked by looneybin90 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly in my opinion porn is something that doesn't need to be feared. Many forms of art are considered to be porn by most Americans. Anything with nudity is now porn by many standards.
I'm with you--porn doesn't have to ruin a relationship. I too am a happily married woman who is Christian. If you have to look at porn as the ONLY WAY to get your kicks, then you have a problem. If you enjoy the occasional porn here and there, where's the problem?
If you have an addictive personality, I would highly suggest watching yourself on anything--porn, caffeine, alcohol, etc.
2007-09-25 15:52:34 · answer #1 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
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2016-07-17 04:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by Daryl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think women tend to watch porn to get ideas about what they can do in real life. Women have a far more open opinion about what an attractive man is and I have yet to find any two women who agree completely on what makes a man attractive. Although women will call a guy handsome, they don't necessarily want to be with that guy, and they seem to be able to look beyond the surface stuff to what's inside and find that far more intriguing, far more desirable. So I would think that men fairly secure in their sexuality would only find women's interest in porn a good thing--maybe she'll want to try some of that stuff with him. Because ultimately, although women may fantasize about a lot of men, may fantasize about having a lot of different partners, in the end they want a man who they can trust, and trust has to be earned over time.
2016-05-18 22:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that porn is degrading to not only women, but to anyone! Why watch it, especially if you're married. Some people don't see it as a problem because it's on the computer screen or on the DVD. But just because you can't feel or touch the person it is still cheating. Emotional cheating. Your mind is a powerful thing. When you look at another woman or man's body parts, then you are lusting over that person. You like the way he/she looks. There's something about the way the person looks that you like, sexually.
When you got married you vowed to be with your husband/wife and only your husband/wife. You are essentially bringing other people into your sex life when you look at porn. What would be the difference if you hired a stripper for a couple of hours and had them stand in front of your bed and strip and fondle themselves?
Since you say you look at porn with your husband and sometimes alone, would you be okay with your husband having a stripper in your home? It's the same thing! Why do people try to justify it?
2007-09-25 16:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
well i think its ok if no one is hurt by it. i don't think people are bad for watching it. I personally don't. I don't have a strong interest in it. Some porn is very degrading to women and i have wondered why people get off watching someone be degraded. I have heard lots of people say that if a woman has a problem with porn she is insecure. I don't agree with that. there are a lot of self respecting women that just don't want to be with someone that gets off watching a woman being degraded. I think some women don't require enough from their men. If you don't agree with porn you don't have to put up with it. Society has told women that to justify it. They are the ones with the problem not the porn watcher right thats so wrong. its not fair to try and guilt ppl into thinking the way you do. I don't think sex is a dirty thing either.
2007-09-25 18:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think porn is normal because its and act that a lot of people do but not in front of the camera or are paid for it. I think that it is ok as long as both parties are ok with it. As for it depicting women in a derogatory manner and that society has something to with this I strongly disagree!! It is a woman's choice whether or not she chooses to do this it is her free will. Women in the porn industry are not held captive or exploit these women. That life style never appealed to me so I stayed away from it on the other hand it appeals to some and that is why they are in this industry.
As for strippers once again they choose this lifestyle no one is forcing them. Some women have a goal that they want to complete and need the funds this type of employment pays well so they choose this avenue and once they have completed their goal they walk away from this life style.
These women are not ignorant they can go else where to find employment but instead they choose this avenue and if its fine with them will that's fine with me.
That's why we live in America the land of the free. Its our body and we can do it what we please.
2007-09-25 20:08:36 · answer #6 · answered by Karencita 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I watch porn sometimes. I am 39, he is 40. Married 14 1/2 years.
2007-09-25 17:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Many women feel they are being compared to the women in the movie, especially if they are lacking in self esteem. That's what I think, and it is the way I feel, although I have nothing against it. It just makes me uncomfortable for my hubby to watch 20 somethings in perfect condition while I sit here, the average woman, and feel like I dont have what it takes compared to them.
2007-09-25 17:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by spelldine43 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, because if women didn't make porn there would be no men to watch it, the camera focuses on the woman, she IS the star of the show, and SHE is the one who gets paid, the man
in a porn serves as nothing more than a penis
very hypocritical when women hate porn, for woman come from the womb of another woman, and it is her choice on what she does with her life.
2007-09-25 19:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Follow The 9 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Still they are conservative and denying themselves of social adoptability. Here, in this cases, more men and women never admitted and accepted pornography as sex enhancements due to their religious consideration but truthfully, if you see them, many of them their married were unhappy and in chaotic situations. I observed that due to religious consideration many couples and spouses were hypocrite that their sexual desires have been kept in troubled that leads to resulted into broken families.
I can't understand why people prefer to gave religous consideration over their sexuality. Yes, sex is a gift of God to be enjoyed by individual as long as we can without destroying other people. Sex by married couple should be done in maximum enjoyment while they can do it to take advantage of their ages because sex in too old people are no more sweet as in the beginning.
I don't know why today many of these people denying themselves of their true happiness to open up their mind to broaded spectrum. Opening their mind to reconsider whatever ideas that can add or enhances their physical and mutual understanding about sexual activities to can be experimented to prolong their sexual appetites that had faded away through out their mariage without the so called cheatings.
Cheating leads to separation and devorced because of selfish consideration either or both of the spouses.
2007-09-25 16:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋