I don't think I'm hideously ugly or anything, I'm just extremely shy. What can I do to be more outgoing and get the women to think I'm sexy not adorable or just the nice guy that's a friend only.
In high school I was one of the best athletes and women would approach me and start conversations with me but I would turn red and couldn't really talk and after a while of this the girls just gave up on me and just viewed me as a quiet friend from that point on, I think a few of them thought I was gay because I never went to there parties they invited me to and hang out with them. Do I have a mental problem or am I just overly shy?
2007-09-25 15:42:01 · 13 answers · asked by Hello 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You're just shy. It takes a lot of practice to get through that and the only way to get practice is to put yourself out there, chuck the failures in the circular file and try again.
Nice guys don't finish last. It just takes them longer to get to the finish line.
I went through a bunch of duds, and painful endings, getting through the shyness and finally found the good one, the keeper when I was 35. Start earlier than me and the finish line will come earlier.
2007-09-25 15:48:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dan H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not with me! I always went for the nice ones! I hate obnoxious, loud *******. I was always drawn to the quiet guy. Maybe that`s because I, too am quiet and nice and a little shy...
Don`t worry, I`m sure you`ll find someone who appreciates you the way you are. Don`t try and be someone else, that never works. Accept it. People will too.
2007-09-25 22:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Roxie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are the nice guy...go with it and embrace being happy with you. My husband is the nice guy and got the nice girl!!! Once you realize that quality women want quality men you will see your great qualities in a whole new light and maybe that will give you a bit more confidence. We can be just as scared as you...Do not be intimidated stand tall and good luck!
2007-09-25 22:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by rayneshowers 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're just shy. When you talk to girls you can't withdraw yourself. If she flirts, flirt back if you like her. It's ok to be nervous cause chances are she's nervous too. But don't show it. (or at least don't try to) If she's coming up to you then you don't have to really wonder if she's interested because she came up to you!
What can you do to be more outgoing? I can't answer that cause I'm working on that myself. Sorry.
2007-09-25 22:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are ok.....just way too shy! Build yourself a circle of friends start there! Good Luck!
2007-09-25 22:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by lolita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shy. You gotta try. You will look back and wish you had. Even me, I am 49 and starting to really try to date and get something going i'll be dead soon. And am thankful for what i did try and got away with . So go for it dude! You'll be glad you did!
2007-09-25 22:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Fireman T 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its nice guys like u who end up getting nice girls in the end..cheer up and be patient..good things happen to those who wait
2007-09-25 22:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by shy_bell80 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just overly shy.
2007-09-25 22:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by Wendie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry ur probably the one I fell completely head over heels for and didn't do anything about b/c I got the impression that he prefer to be alone! oops!
2007-09-25 22:47:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because they're so nice that they're willing to let other people go in front of them all the time.
Just relax, you're normal
2007-09-25 22:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋