Would you forgive 1, 2, 3 more than 3. When do you think the forgiving person is only fooling themselves?
2007-09-25 15:28:43 · 29 answers · asked by Night Stalker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-09-25 15:31:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once definitely- maybe twice depending on the situation
I would never forgive more than twice. By that time if the person has not learned their lesson then they never will. I don't believe in all this stuff about once a cheater always a cheater. Sometimes people get caught up in things (like flirtation, or infatuation) and it gets out of control. If they are truly sorry and want to change then they should be given another chance. However, they is just so much that a person can forgive and if the other is unwilling to change then it is time to go.
2007-09-25 16:32:35 · answer #2 · answered by Starsfan14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My person view/opinion:
I would forgive 0 times.
I think the forgiving person is fooling themselves.
There is no excuse for cheating nor is there any excuse for forgiving a cheater. I honestly believe those who forgive should expect it to happen again.
I'm sorry if that sounds negative but people who cheat had a choice. If they didn't then that's called rape and it's a different story.
2007-09-25 15:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by kikitiki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Zero times. For those who are patient enough to forgive infidelity I say should only do it once and never again. But for me personally, it is not a forgivable act....if you aren't ready to commit and battle the obstacles in a relationship or marriage, then DONT stay. And in my head I could never truly trust the person again, and that mere fact would doom the relationship.
2007-09-25 15:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I all ways give the benefit of the doubt once! I would take into consideration the circumstances, then decide whether to forgive, but like one said trust would be a big issue. The second time, no. . its over then.
2007-09-25 15:37:56 · answer #5 · answered by Antdak 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if they had an affair they should not be forgivin because they were not worried about it when they were doing only when they were caught. I think to forgive a cheater once is fooling yourself
2007-09-29 15:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would forgive only once and that's if he seemed to feel really remorseful. If he was to cheat more than once then I know he would be not committed at all.
Hopefully I will never have to forgive.
2007-09-25 15:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to cheating it would only happen once.... I can forgive about anything else but not cheating... there is not a good enough reason and I would never trust them again and without trust there is no marriage.
2007-09-25 15:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by DavidV 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The forgiving person ie:ME , was foolish for forgiving her 1st husband 4 time's lmao .he had 5 affairs.You keep forgiving them they are just going to keep going out and doing it.
Unfortunetly for my 2nd husband he got no forgiveness , not that I didnt try , but after my 1st husbands betrayels I just didnt have the fight or want anymore.He only cheated once.
2007-09-25 15:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will forgive him no matter how many times if I still love him as long as he is not serious with the other girl.
Sometimes is not fooling but love help you to forgive.
2007-09-26 01:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thats a hard question.. i think if a person wants to give someone a second chance thats fine.. depends on how much u love the person and how remorseful the person that cheated actually is.. but i think if it happens again that should be a sure sign that this is a character flaw in the person and that they will never be capable of being faithful..
2007-09-25 15:32:50 · answer #11 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋