When is the RIGHT TIME to turn your back against 'something' you've faced with for long?

Question

...And what is that 'something'?

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Answer 1

Is this truly "turning your back" or moving forward?
Whatever the something was, it's part of my experience for good or ill; hopefully for good by gaining insights from "it."
How can I put this--other than using personal abstractions from "somethings"?
1. I moved forward by realizing my propensity to protect others from the uncommon "me" when I let my my adversities spill--just once--into someone else's life, & resolving never to let this happen again; by refusing to answer the phone, I not only underestimated their strength, but I harmed them.
2. In business, someone scammed some $40,000. of what was mine, & while I tried to imagine every possible option, the bottom line is that he has no assets, or they are so crafitily hidden, I would spend time, emotion, & money in trying to ferret them out. At this time in my life, I haven't any of the three to spend, thus, my choice is obvious.
The personal insight was wonderful. I realize fully that it isn't my province to assume what is best for others. I'll never, never do this again. In the other, I believe I have some responsibility in not being aware of some red flags, but that is over, & I will be far more cautious than I was.
I believe that the "right time" to move forward is when we've fully evaluated the "something" is past, & we've made recovery or cannot.

Edit: Beautiful answer from shahrizat. Yet, I think my last sentence clarifies my answer. I would never turn my back on something without the total conviction (from whatever sources) that the something couldn't be resolved.

Answer 2

That 'something' and your own personal equations otherwise determine the best resolve: the circumstance has to be looked at as thoroughly as possible, and the 'what' you are faced with.

That something might be apt to wipe out in lightning speed, while another may take half a life time for which you are to face it. 'All depends.

No one fit exists but there is always a principle to which each expression within the circumstance applies. This is why some will say that there exists a solution hidden in the folds of every reverse. 'Or that there is an answer to everything.

But O Boy, deriving that answer is where the real mastery comes in...

Answer 3

Simple answer, when I have completed all that I can do with a process in the lab, and waiting remains, I walk away until the criteria for continence is met. Some things you just have to wait for and some things simply don't happen. It it doesn't happen, (yeast rising) then you toss it out and get a new sample going.
Complex answer, When my first wife wanted a divorce, and would not meet the requirement of talking it over, (my criteria for continence) I gave her the divorce she wanted.
If she would have then met the criteria, we might have been able to repair the marriage, but she decided to move on and so did I. ( the yeast did not rise.) I am now married 17 years and counting to my second wife (got another sample going) and have had great results.

Answer 4

Jach, if you turn your back on something as a means of escaping it, then I don’t believe that you are anywhere near reaching a resolution to the problem you face. For all you know, that “something” might just decide to dog your footsteps and follow you wherever you go. What could be worse is if that something catches up with you sometime in the future, and unexpectedly trips you up because you never saw it creeping up on you from behind.

Life often presents us with seemingly impossible choices to decide upon. Sometimes, the mind alone in deliberation is not enough; you need a combination of inputs from other sources - your heart, family and close ones, counseling, and also whatever spirituality that you hold on to - before you can arrive at your decision. The main thing is that you need to TRY to arrive at a resolution and get that much needed closure, even if you need help from others in getting it. Believe me, there’s nothing wrong in asking for help.

Putting your problems on the back burner just won’t help; neither is walking away from them, because instead of it burning itself out, the fire might just catch onto something else and cause much more, irrevocable damage.....

Answer 5

Well it sound to me that the thing that you want to turn your back on is something that you can fix, deal with,or have no conclusion too :)))Maybe when you leave a problem and then come back to it later you can face it better.............

For me are things like career, possibly having a fmaily one day etc... I try to take one day at a time and we all have issues in our lives what is a constant support are my friends family even co-workers that all have different things going on there are no clear cut anwers...but I know what your saying when you have dealt with an issue for a long time sometimes you just have to release it and let it go that is the best thing you can do in a situation that you have faced for a long time with no conclusion or answers :)))) for your life :)))

Answer 6

Never is the right time. You should never turn your back on an unresolved issue. You must not only face it, but also clear the imprint of it from your energy field, or it will continue to haunt you beyond the physical. I have a great deal of experience with this from personal extremely traumatic issues that occurred in my life. By trying to shove these issues under the proverbial carpet for most of my life, I struggled for YEARS to find clarity.

Baggage does not have to remain claimed. You can toss it back if you no longer want it. Face it. Clear it. Clear the energy. And move on through life with peace, contentment and a self-actualized sense of clarity.

Answer 7

That 'something' is different from everyone. For some it could be a job, a spouse, or maybe yourself.
For example, you have an awful job, you hate waking up in the morning and getting the same Starbucks mumbojumbo for your boss, who has yet to call you by your real name. As you walk in the door, somebody bumps into you and spill hot coffee all over you, then you get yelled at by your boss, who calls you by an incorrect name, for wearing innapropriate attire at work because you are dirty. It's time to turn your back from that job and get a new one....
Or you could be in an abusive relationship with your spouse/partner. You are at your last thread. Maybe your children are starting to get affected by your spouse/partner's anger or violentness. You are in danger, you need to leave before it is too late.
And finally, it could be yourself. You could suffer from past experiences, you will not let yourself move on, and your memories are getting you depressed. You may need to turn your back on those memories and move on.
Moving on is my basic theme here. You make the decisions in your life (I hope...), it's always up to the individual.

Answer 8

Life holds no guarantee. Happiness wilts unless we water it daily. First we are swallowed and chewed by our grief then we learn to live beside our grief and look at it. Then we learn to put it away from us. I have been trying to turn my back on a deep unchangeable grief for over five years. Every time it sneaks back in an unguarded instant. All I can do is not give in. All I can do is right myself and go on even if the first ten steps are stumbling and blind. Learning how wrong a death can be is a lesson I would not wish on my worst enemy.

Answer 9

You could never turn your back on that "something" because you'd never be able to look back without running into it.
For me that something is school. I put it off for a while and now I am faced with starting all over. But if I put it off for longer, I'd end up with less accomplished than I do now.

Answer 10

There is nothing in my life worth completely turning my back on...

But, my hubby has never had a relationship with his father. When he tried he was asked how much money he wanted and that after he was given that money he would be cut off forever.

Now, that that my hubby has a family of his own he tried to contact his father on several occasions so that he could meet his grandkids...and NOTHING! No phone calls, no attempts at contacting us, NOTHING!

So, I told him it was the RIGHT TIME to turn his back on that relationship and build his relationships with his own sons!