My spouse filed divorce because I keep withdraw money without telling her or explaination. Because I thought I make money so I want to spent whatever I need why I have to tell her? And I don't want to be asked why why why. I like to do whatever I want to do to show her I'm a man.
Am I right? why she divorce me?
2007-09-25 14:24:06 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With an attitude like this, expect to be alone for the rest of your life.
2007-09-25 14:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You are above and beyond being wrong!!! That is some controlling S*** you were pulling there and she has every good reason to leave your *** When you are married you are a team and you let each other know what is going on and how the money is spent and if you didnt have anything to hide then it wouldnt be a problem you are a pig and i would left you too Is being "the man" and "in control" so important to you that your wife leaving doesnt matter?? It doesnt matter if you make the money or not you need to communicate with her what is going on how would you feel if she did that to you what would you think and wouldnt you be curious to know where money is going especially if she didnt tell you because "she made the money" please you are very controlling and you were trying to prove to her that you are the man but now you are just gonna be a lonley man because she is gone and now you can do whatever you want..when you are married the other has a right to know what is going on. You need to grow with the times the men arent in charge anymore it is equal now and she was your equal and you treated her like a child..why would you want to get married at all with that attitude because it is a partnership not a manship!!
2007-09-25 21:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you only care about yourself. Just because you make the money doesn't mean you can just go spend it. How is she suppose to pay the bills or manage the money if you are not asking/telling her that you need some.
To show her that you are a man maybe you should go crawling back on your hands and knees tell her how sorry you are for asking that way and that you love her and will work thru this. You need to remember that you cannot just take without giving in a relationship.
2007-09-25 21:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by thats me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to be alone not in a marriage that's open and honest. What a disgrace! Is that how u should show u are a man- by having control of everything and keeping secrets? If you want to do whatever u want to do, live alone. How would u like it if she did whatever she wanted - like stay out all night with her friends getting free drinks from men and not telling u nwhere she was. Grow up! You are very undesirable. Just because u grew up with disrespect doesn't mean u have to do a repeat.
2007-09-25 21:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by whisperer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a partnership. Money can be a big problem in a marriage. This is a good example. She has a right to know where the money goes and you are being secretive. Money has nothing to do with being a man. Try treating her with respect and sharing with her. That is more of what a man does instead of spending money that you refuse to tell her where it went.
2007-09-25 21:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its both good and bad. sometimes being a man needs to be conservative, maybe shes a kind of woman who doesn't want men to spend a lot of money on non-important things. you have to balance the way to spend money. if you learn that, i guaranteed you that you'll never ever face this problem again. the good thing is that you are showing her how much you care about her a lot. womans do love men to use some money to them. although she divorces you, make sure you say sorry and make it for real so she understands that.
2007-09-25 21:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by ♣♥♠♦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Yes, you should be able to do what you want...but when you're married it's a union, a shared responsibility to take care of each other and responsibilities. If you are always taking money out and not letting her know..how can either one of you balancing the books. Sounds like I need more info to answer your question. She shouldn't divorce you...you two should talk and work towards an agreement on how to handle finances.
2007-09-25 21:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok.....what would you think if she was making withdrawls and had nothing to show for it, and offered no explaination as to what it was for. You are in a marriage, the money is BOTH of yours. Looks like you will be doing whatever you want soon enough...as you will soon be single. A marriage is a partnership where both people work together, that includes financially as well.
2007-09-25 21:29:38 · answer #8 · answered by Renee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She divorced you because you are being selfish.
Look...Mr. Man....marriage is a partnership, okay? That means it's not "your" money or "her" money. It goes from "mine" and "yours" to "OURS". Which means if you keep taking money out of the bank account without telling her and spending it on whatever YOU want....you're ignoring your family's needs for the sake of your own!
If you want to show her you're a "man", then go to her, apologize for what you've done, and tell her you'll make decisions on finances TOGETHER from now on instead of going behind her back. Marriage is built on trust, not machoism.
2007-09-25 21:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by hrgirl1701 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You want to show her your a man ? quit with the fast money making schemes and go out and get a real damn job like other normal committed married men do to support their wives the way your going , your going to end up in jail.
I would divorce you too especially when I am out there working earning my money the correct way and your just sitting at home dreaming of ways to become rich , time to grow up lil man.
2007-09-25 21:29:55 · answer #10 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you're wrong. I have felt that way before too, but its wrong. The two of you came together and got married. That means you treat each other as equal partners in the things you do, such as maintaining a house, family, decisions that have to be made, becasue they affect her too, not just you. You need to give her more respect as your wife and your partner and take into account her opinions and how she feels about thing. To answer your question, yes, she may divorce you, becasue your're not treating her as a wife who is your equal partner, you're treating her as a person who doesn't matter to you and you don't care what she thinks or feels, just like she is some outsider who's opinion doesn't count.
2007-09-25 21:30:12 · answer #11 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋