My best friend is a therapist, and she's also bisexual.
She's taken too much of an interest in my personal life to the point that I find her judgements of the people I'm dating rude and crossing the line.
Its as if there's no one good enough for her. Sometimes I think she's secretly wanting to date me herself.
How do I politely and nicely tell her that she's risking ruining our friendship by dissing the guys I go out with?
2007-09-25 13:22:39 · 9 answers · asked by Petunia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
By doing just that - tell her she is buggering up your friendship by trying to steer things too much.
Thank her for caring about you, but you are an adult and can make your own choices, mistakes etc.
If she oversteps the boundary line and asks you out, and you definitely dont roll like that, then tell her its not the way your relationship is and that you really value what you have. Then act normal - like nothing has ever happended.
She will either pull her horns in or she will move out of your life.
If she moves on then you were never really friends anyway.
Let it all flow over the top.
2007-09-25 13:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-06 09:17:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just what you said here - that she's stepping past the bounds of friendship when she disses the guys you go out with. And if she wants to continue the friendship she has to treat you choices as your right, and leave it alone.
If you feel she is intimately inclined and you are not, just tell her straight out. As a therapist, she should appreciate your honesty.
2007-09-25 13:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she is entitled her opnion, just tell her that you will no longer discuss you personal life with her or the people that you date and also she is getting a bit personal about it which bothers you and you would like her to stop it
2007-09-25 13:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be right about her wanting to date you. Just tell her what you told us. Be prepared to give her some space to process what your telling her. Be honest with her about your feelings.
2007-09-25 13:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres no other way you can do it without just telling her straight out. Maybe not as harshly as you put it, but tell her that her judgments bother you. & theres nothing you can really do if shes attracted to you. If she bothers you so much try hanging out with other people.
2007-09-25 13:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't try to get free advice from her. Keep your personals to yourself and if you need to see a therapist, see someone you don't know and have to pay for.
2007-09-25 13:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her nicely, you know, make it sincere and stuff. Tell her you mean no offense, but some things you'd like her to be less critisizing on.
2007-09-25 13:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2007-09-25 13:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by Baby boy on board [[April 16th]] 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋