me and my hubby have argued quiet a bit about him spankin it and how i will ask whether or not we are gonna have sex that night he mentioned that he doesnt like that and he hates that i check up on him and what he is looking at online..now i have stopped asking qeustions and have even stopped worrying about him taking care of himself because i know thats normal but still bothers me..so today i asked him if he was goin home first or goin to pick up the baby then go home he thought i was askin him because if he was goin home then i would think he was taking care of himself which is not why i was asking at all but first he laughed it off and some how it turned into this big blow out about how i make sex like a chore because i want to have sex everyday and i get home late and he works a hard job and is too tired and he thinks i am being inconsiderate when like i said i havent been asking about it or even mentioning it so i hung up w him cuz i didnt want to listen to it anyway i text him..
2007-09-25 12:13:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and said he was flippin out for no reason and i wasnt askin to check on him and he can look at as many naked women he wants and watch as much porn as he wants and i will just wait until he comes on to me because i dont want to have sex with him if he feels like it is work and that i dont care anymore and he didnt respond but when i call him what else should i say or was i wrong saying what i said? advice please
2007-09-25 12:16:36 · update #1
we do still have sex and he doesnt watch it all the time or anything like that i just dont know what else to say to him about it it doesnt affect our sex life but bcuz i get home late and he is tired and doesnt want to take another shower, i think it is because he knows it bothers me and gets defensive and says that i make him feel guilty for doin it and that it is like a chore
2007-09-25 12:44:06 · update #2
I hate to say this but i think your husband is cheating on you. That's when i knew something was up in my marriage all the sex stopped and know matter what i ask him he would make it out like i was checking up on him. We argued about the most stupid stuff that didn't make sense. If your husband is on line and he gets mad if he thinks you are checking up on him what do you think he is doing. Sure he could be looking at porn but what kind of porn it could be with women that are in those live chat rooms where they are talking and looking at each other one on one. Your husband is definitely up to no good and you better find out what it is before he comes home one night and says I don't love you anymore I'm in love with someone i met on the Internet and we are in love.
2007-09-25 13:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is masturbating and watching porn, but refusing to have sex with you, that is NOT NORMAL, I would say he has a very real problem. The fact that he attacks you for asking him for sex (even when you aren't) means that there may be a bit more to this.
Have you checked the kind of porn he watches? I know he doesn't like it when you see him on the computer, but try to find out. It could be that he's batting for the other team (gay curious), or his turn-ons don't include adult women (a very serious problem).
If he comes clean about his preferences, and wants to change, I would try to get him some sort of help for his problem. But if he insists that he's entitled to a cyber sex life that excludes you, then its time to work out for yourself is that alright with you?
2007-09-25 12:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were honest with him what more could you do. He must be feeling guilty over what he does or it wouldn't have bothered him so much. You asked him if he was going home first or going to pick up the baby how does spanking the monkey play into that? I wouldn't come on to him either but, I couldn't live with someone who didn't want to have relations with me either.....
2007-09-25 12:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was you i would drop his butt because is hes not wanting to have sex with you then hes not that interested and thats not the big problem the big problem is that ways hes acting doesnt want you to ask him questions or see when hes online theres something wrong with him if he acts like that towards you he might have another woman maybe cant say for sure but it sounds like hes no longer very interested in you and you should ask if why he acts like that to you
2007-09-25 12:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WUT?? try to shorten it a lil!! lol jk bibi gl
2007-09-25 12:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋