2007-09-25 12:03:37 · 19 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
What is the point of being married if it is "open?" Seems pointless to me, but so does sleeping around.....
2007-09-25 12:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by theseeker4 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It depends. I prefer the commited relationship and marriage for myself.
However, if the two people in question are happy with an open marriage...then more power to them. If one person isn't though, then it shouldn't be an open marriage. This needs to be something that is decided by that couple...if they want the option of being able to see others on the side without feeling guilty about it, as long as their primary relationship is with the person they married. Both people in the relationship have to be ok with it though...not ok because they say to a partner they fear that they are ok with it, but because they really are ok with it.
Is it for everyone, no. For me..I like being with one woman. My fiance means the world to me, and I couldn't picture my life without her, or having to share her with someone else. However, if a couple feels they can do that...then more power to them.
2007-09-25 19:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Machowolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it would work for me. I've known a few couples who have open marriages and I've got to say, they're not the happiest marriages. One woman agreed to it and now, 17 years later, regrets it. She says if she speaks up, he tells her she married him under false pretenses.
The other couple are rather different. He's 20 years older than her. He was griping to my husband and I, saying she's getting more than him. He was ok with it when he was younger but now that he's aged (not very gracefully), the women just aren't breaking down his doors anymore. His wife seems to be having a good time though.
2007-09-25 19:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not for the insecure, they are not for the weak at heart..but there are those who do just fine with it...let's get real....after x amount of years, fresh stuff looks and feels good. That doesn' t mean it is preferred, it can stand as a reference as to how good it is at home. At least it is honest! All this sliipping around and cheating has got to be exhausting! And this is not just a male thing, gals do it too. If the couple is fine with it, it is their business, not mine. How do I feel about it? I think it can work out better than feeling trapped in a boring sexual situation, but where real love stands, real security stands...again, not for the faint of heart.But, I do not think it is the worst thing that can happen...
2007-09-27 00:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating, I don't care what name you want to tack on it. If you don't want to be married, get a divorce. Nothing good can come of it. I see you watched Oprah. The thing that bothered me was that they had kids. Is this the impression that you want to give them of what marriage should be. SO Wrong in so many ways. I could go on and on, but I will stop now before I say something I shouldn't
2007-09-26 15:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Moe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't agree with it at all. Marriage is about love and commitment between two people. In the long run it probably causes a lot of heartache and pain, and possibly divorces. I said my vows before God and family to be with just one man, and I will stick to that.
2007-09-26 18:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think they are the best way for people to stay together -- check out the divorce rate. Marriage is a partnership, and sex is a biological need. I think people who do not mistake sex for love, and if they choose to marry, marry the person they love, an open relationship works the best. One or both of you are going to lose interest in sex (in my opinion) and you'll both lose interest in sex eventually (in my opinion). So marry the person you love and have sex when you meet a consenting parter who agrees that sex is just sex -- it is important your sex partner agrees on that point.
2007-09-26 02:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by conover1900 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To each is their own. I do not believe in it at all. I will not share a man with another woman/women. I personally think it is the same as cheating. Then you have to worry about all the STD out there, no thank you. I would rather live alone the rest of my life as to share a man with some one else.
2007-09-25 19:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is disgusting. That is not a marriage. What is the point of getting married if you can't be with that person only. That is just really pathetic.
2007-09-27 13:37:21 · answer #9 · answered by Karel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watched a show not long back about a man who had three wives (or was it four? I obviously didn't watch it that close) anyway the women were always getting into jealous cat fights. The husband spent a good deal of his time trying to put fires out. Really, was it all worth it?
2007-09-25 19:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by Wickwire 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would think that no marriage would be better than that kind. Just the way I see things.
2007-09-25 20:03:59 · answer #11 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋