I retired at 50, so that I could move closer to my daughter with all her medical problems. Now, for 27 years, I owned an Interior decorating business which was very successful. But, when I chose to move closer to my daughter, that put 100 miles between my clients and me...so, I retired!
Now, I have been given an opportunity to sell the "reborn" dolls that my partner and I make through a very exclusive shop in Dallas! The woman saw a doll I did which was heading for England and she fell in love with her. She got to see the baby that I made the doll to look like as well and it blew her away and has caused her to want to carry our dolls EXCLUSIVELY!
I am so torn about this as I think we could keep the store with inventory but, when Cindy needs me, the dolls would be put on the back burner!
Please, let me know what you think as this is a very important decision I will need to make very soon! Thank you for any pros-cons, on this! Gail
2007-09-25 11:21:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Jael, I would never talk to Cindy about such as she would be feeling so guilty and a burden. I would love to discuss this with her but, I choose not to as I never want her to think she stands in the way of anything, in my life.
2007-09-26 04:58:41 · update #1
You have been given a Golden Opportunity. Take it.
You have a partner that can run the business if you have to take time off. And, you can take a doll or two with you wherever you go, to keep you company in times of stress. And you will need that relief, the dolls will provide it.
I don't believe God would drop this in your lap, especially from an exclusive shop, we're it not meant to be a joy for you. I believe He sent this woman to you, she sought you out.
Good Luck in your decision, I know you'll do the right thing, 'cause you know where you are.
2007-09-25 15:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Cranky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you that nothing or anything is more valuable than your child. I lost my only child when he was only 27 years old. I had a demanding job all though his childhood and young life. Everyday I regret that job taking away my time with my son. I think often of ways that I could have made life better for him if I had not spent so much time on the job. Your circumstances may be entirely different than mind and I don't mean to lay a guilt trip on you. You sound like a loving Mother and I am sure you will make the right decision for you. Hopefully you can divide your time between the job and your daughter. You deserve to live your life, but live it without regrets. God Bless
2007-09-25 19:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by pattypat999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opt for the doll business...a sense of purpose in life is worth so much more than idle time. You obviously have a very rare gift...share it and make good money while doing it. Just be careful not to get buried and lose the love of what you are doing...that is the biggest danger of turning a hobby you love into a business. Know when to say, "no, can't deliver on that schedule," and "yes, no problem." IN business, truthful delivery times are so much better than wishful thinking. Go for it...please don't wake up 10 years from now and wish you had! IF this turns into something big, you can hire others to help you....obviously, there are parts of this process which others can do...so keep to what only you can do..the finishing touches, whatever. good luck and peace, Goldwing
2007-09-25 12:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have a wonderful gift that you can share with others . We are all here for a purpose but there are priorities and of course your daughter should come first . I don't know your circumstances but if it is health related ,there are other avenues you can look into ,like temporary home care .you need to be the one to make the final decision . If you are passionate about making the dolls, it is a wonderful way for you to be immoralized and it will give your life purpose which is something everyone needs. As mothers, we always put everyone ahead of ourselves but sometimes we need to stop and listen to our inner voice . Trust your own instincts and remember ,you deserve to be happy too. Good Luck Gail!
2007-09-25 15:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Donna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gaillee01 - You made the ultimate sacrifice by retiring from your interior decorating business to help your daughter. I look at this opportunity as another chance and a gift from God. You sound like a very creative person and I think that you should go for it. Remember you are not alone with taking care of Cindy. God is with her also. I think God would be pleased.
Blessings
2007-09-25 11:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gail, I think this is a decision you need to make using your gut feeling and never look back and second guess your decision. If you feel as if you could still contribute to the business and if that would make you happy then by all means I would say do that. However we only have one life to give and devote to our family and especially if they need our love and support constantly and completely. If you can be comfortable financially without working anymore I would urge you to let go of your store and make caring for Cindy job #1. After all I'm sure she would never want the guilt or burden of letting you know how much she would love and appreciate having your full undivided attention but put yourself in her shoes. None of us know the fear that a loved one feels as they face the unknown of tomorrow and facing it alone has to be 100 times more fearful. I realize as Cindy must also I'm sure that she is not alone and that you put her health and well being first and foremost in your life. After all you have proven that many times over especially by giving her the ultimate gift of a healthy body part. I know without a doubt that if you could give her your other healthy kidney you would make the ultimate sacrifice that most parents would make in order to make it possible for her to have a normal healthy body and be able to live her life as others do without the need to undergo the agony of routine medical treatment just to ensure her survival. It comes down to this I think. If you give up your store can you provide for yourself and help Cindy with her medical bills so that she can have some relief from the added pressure that financial burdens surely create? If not then perhaps that should be a determining factor in making your decision. How will you be most able to help her?
By continuing to operate your successful and fulfilling business so you can provide the financial assistance and support she so badly needs or by devoting yourself entirely to her daily personal and medical attention. I know this gives you 2 scenarios that have surely have played over and over in your mind so it undoubtedly brings you no closer to the right decision. All I can say is ask GOD to guide you as you come to this fork in the road of your life and tell HIM to send you a sign and a clear message as to what is the right decision and then do whatever your heart tells you to do and you will know without a doubt that you have done the right thing. Good luck whatever you do and may GOD bless both you and cindy.... you both are in my prayers. Larry
2007-09-25 13:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gail,
This is exactly what I would like to do! Stay at home and make the dolls for the store. You don't have to move to do that and you can still be with your daughter. I hope she is doing ok. Prayer are with you. I know you will make the right choice. The Big Guy is on your side!
Granny
2007-09-25 12:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Granny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gail, I think you should do the dolls. When they need to take the back burner, put them there. When cooking, we use all 4 stove eyes and a pot on each one. I have absolutely no doubt that you can pull this off! Go for it, your income would help supplement assisting your daughter. Good Luck! Let us know what you do.
2007-09-25 11:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Wrong number 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you have to be in Dallas to sell the dolls? Can your inventory be shipped as needed with pictures of the dolls online or something like that? I hope you find a way to do both.
2007-09-25 12:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 03:18:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋