I have been taking my best friends child to school on and off for about a year and a half. First it was just every so often as a favor, now it's 3 days a week. I don't mind doing favors now and again but this has become an obligation. Her school is about 14 miles round trip each day. My question is how do I get myself out of this without hurting any feelings, she is going through some stuff right now and I'd like to be sensative to that. I will also add that I do several other small favors for her as well and I'd kinda like to put a stop to that too.
2007-09-25 10:51:40 · 3 answers · asked by I got answers! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dee, if indeed she is your best friend then you should have no problem sitting her down and letting her know how you feel. Explain that initially you were doing this favour once and a while to try and accomodate her but lately have been feeling used. Tell her that you value the friendship that you two have shared for however long it has been but that you cannot and will not be able to take her kid to school any longer. Personally I would not embellish any stories or anything but be 100% up front with her. It may indeed put a little strain on the relationship for a short while but fact is that she may not even be aware that it appears that she is using you. And she may even apologize for being so insensitive. Best of luck and remember that she is your best friend and as such you two should be able to say anything to each other without hurting the others feelings.
2007-09-25 10:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make up excuses or be straight forward. I would probably list the various reasons why, even if they aren't the major issue. Maybe even offer multiple reasons. Don't blantly lie. "It takes up my time and I would like to sleep in or I would like to get to work earlier or I would like to be doing something else.", "The price of gas and the toll it's putting on my car is beginning to show.", or anything else that bothers you about it.
On the bright side as long as you're mature about it and don't approach her in an offensive way then if she's really your friend you shouldn't have anything to worry about. If she explodes because of this then she really wasn't your friend after all.
2007-09-25 18:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by misstsukino 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out with it...no one can "use" you unless you let them...
2007-09-25 17:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by mamapoulette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋