Even if he is on meds and seems better and is getting the help he needs and moving on in life and doesn't want to hear her problems (that he created- even when she tried to get away but he kept after her and she couldn't get a restraining order at first) while she is still tortured by memories of the past and worries of what he will do to her, especially if he gets off the meds or needs an adjustment?
She has been through counseling, and can't afford for her to get the help she needs. The husband is getting his help but barely able to pay for it. It is either he gets help or she does. He makes too much to qualify for financial assistance but in cases of mental illness like this, the money seems to disappear.
2007-09-25 10:38:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did you know women well anyone can become dependent upon an abusive relationship. It is a very difficult situation and the truth becomes obviously blurred. It is like living on the edge 24/7 because you can never fully let your guard down. To do so would leave you vulnerable and they can be so unpredictable. He needs the meds and professional help, but you need counseling. May I suggest go to your pastor, if you don't have one ask some of your friends and visit with their pastor. My best friend is a minister and she has counseled a lot of people and helped them get other assistance. If you would like her email address or her to contact you by email, tell me and I will contact her. She is very understanding and not judgmental I know she would be happy to help.
2007-09-25 13:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has too much water under the bridge for this relationship to survive, besides the fact that the bridge is not safe to stand on.
She doesn't need counseling to stay in this. It's not a relationship anyway, it's a nightmare. She needs counseling to move on from being the kind of person who would accept this mess as a way of life.
She needs a fresh start. Tell her to move out & on
2007-09-25 17:48:20 · answer #2 · answered by CMA Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a better question for you sweetie, what are you still doing with him? Wasn't what he did enough for you not to love him any more? Come on, what's going on in our country? He should be in jail instead of on medication. There is too much BS going on in this country regarding women. We keep on talking about other cultures and how they treat they women. What about us, what about America, the richest country in the world and yet the most indifferent when it comes to help one of our own. Guys like that do not need to have therapy and medication, they have to be put in jail. Physical abuse is a crime no matter what. And you sweetie, move on, leave him at once. Why live in fear when you can have a better and happier future. There are plenty good men out there. You don't need to stay with that cockroach, you deserve better. Go and find you a good man out there, one that will love you, care for you, protect you, respect you and give you everything you deserve. Don't let yourself become another statistic, fight back. You have a lot to loose if you stay. I wish you good luck.
2007-09-25 18:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've been hit and you stay SHAME on you!!! How can you expect anyone to help you if you won't help yourself. I feel bad for woman that are abused the first time, but not the second time by the same man. If a guy hits you and you hang around for it, why should anyone feel sorry for you?
Good Luck
2007-09-25 17:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm missing the question in this, too. Try reposting with a definite question. People want to try to help.
2007-09-25 17:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either pay for the meds,free clinic,or move on its not going to just go away!
2007-09-25 17:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by connie sue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i was her i would just get out - get help for myself to get stronger and go it on my own.
2007-09-25 17:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your conscience and heart is the truth!
2007-09-25 19:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but, what is the question?
2007-09-25 17:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋