I just turned 25 yrs old and my husband is 29 yrs old we have been married 4 yrs.I have a daughter who is turning 5 yrs old soon from a previous relationship.After moving 3 times for my hubbys career i caved into his wishes for me to quit my job(elementry school teacher)and come home to start a family with him.I could not seem to get pregnant though and recently found out he was cheating on me all that time.Recently he ran off with her(his boss) after he got fiered for his relationship with her by a superior.Bills are starting to stack up on water, electric,insurance ect.I am paying for food with credit cards that are almost maxed out.The house was a gift from my hubbys parents so we have no moragage the house is worth about 533- 577 grand.We also have 4 cars toyota carola(mine),(hubbys) pick up truck,(hubbys) mustang and a suv we both used.I have no clue where hubby is so am i allowed to sell things without asking?
2007-09-25 10:23:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S Hubby moved out 6 months ago ish saying he needed to think about his life.For 2 of those months he was in TX before moving somewhere else?I suspect we are currently in debt on top of it or close to it?
2007-09-25 10:26:42 · update #1
I signed for the cars so its not just his name on it and same for the house they are in both are names
2007-09-25 10:32:55 · update #2
Fist of all, sorry... But for sure take care of your finances. You are both responsible for the debts you incur while married.
You MUST go see a lawyer or family law specialist immediately. He likely owes you alimony and child support. Establish with the courts what his responsibilities are and he will be held accountable eventually.
Start planning how you will make a living--sounds like you can go back to teaching.
If he is truly out of reach, you do have certain rights to property, but the laws vary by state.
Good luck!
2007-09-25 10:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by deepseaofblankets 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At a guess you would be able to sell those things that were exclusively yours - your car and any personal property, but not ANYTHING that was mutually owned, or in his name only. So it would depend on who's name appeared on the registration papers of the other vehicles as to whether you could sell them.
After all how would you like it if it was reversed and he tried to sell those things that were yours or jointly owned.
But see a lawyer. If he is gone for 6 months you should be able to claim desertion, get a divorce, and go for a property settlement, then you will know what you have to sell.
2007-09-25 17:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could sell the car that's in your name, but you'd need him to sign off on the titles to the others. As for the house, why not get a loan against it to pay for bills?
You should call a lawyer, though. If he took off some time ago, there may be a certain amount of time that needs to pass in order for him to have, in effect, "abandoned" his property. Then you could probably sell it.
2007-09-25 17:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by Laura 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this is just the vindictive side of me speaking, but I would sell all of his sh*t without a second thought. Keep in mind, though, that you may not be able to sell his vehicles if your name isn't on the title. Otherwise, if you can't get in contact with him to ask him if you can sell some stuff, do what you have to do to support your kids. He sounds like a real louse to me.
Hope your situation gets better!! Good luck sweetie.
2007-09-25 17:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, check with a lawyer. If you live in a community state, don't sell anything. That could get you in trouble. But above all, since you have mingled with his credit, he could max them out and get you more in debt. So , hurry and get an appointment with a family lawyer right away.
2007-09-25 17:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by NA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Protect your children. Get a free consultation with a lawyer. Sell anything that doesn't involve a title. Guns, rings, furniture etc...that you don't want!! Then take it from there! Good luck and contact a couple lawyers for the free consultation!!
2007-09-25 17:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that the laws differ in many areas but i know where i live in NY when you are married half of everything belongs to you. So if you lived in NY and sold these things he would be entitled to half of the money you gain from selling these things. It would be in your best interest to check the laws in your area though, they may be different.
2007-09-25 17:55:19 · answer #7 · answered by LawlietLover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you name is on the property as Joe Smith and/ or Sara Smith, then yes, you can sell it. If it is AND only, then no. So you will, (unfortunately) need an attorney to sell the property, and sue him for the bills as well (half, anyway.
2007-09-25 17:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you...... I would not sell any properties until you have a lawyer or a lawyer at present. do you think your EX already been preparing for court damages or properties to his LAWYER for the past 6months? you do not want to get a suprise from him. my advice to you is be well PrePared & Focus at all times.
2007-09-25 18:31:24 · answer #9 · answered by Flavio B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sell it all deposit half in a close account for him if he comes ever to get it and move on with the other half to a new life.
2007-09-29 17:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by thinker bell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋