I was with my husband for 5 years and for 3 1/2 of those years we've been married. We've been doing nothing but fighting for the last year or so. I got tired of it and left. We have 2 kids. He said that he wanted to keep them and have joint custody. I've been gone for Sunday the 23rd of September. I love him because we had 2 kids together but I'm not in love with him anymore. Now he's trying to keep me from seeing my kids, he's not taking them to school. I'm filing for divorce this week or next. I'm staying with a good friend.
Do you have any advice?
2007-09-25 09:55:01 · 6 answers · asked by Missy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him keep the kids. Call the school district and tell them that your husband is not getting them to school. Consult an attorney, since it is pretty certain from this posting that the two of you will agree on nothing, meaning the use of a mediating attorney is out of the question. Get your butt back in school, file and leave the marriage. So far you have rather screwed up your life... see how you can get back on track... here''s what my mama would have hammered into your head since you were 13 if you were my sister:
1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you marry. Choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no children until your bond is strong, and have no more than you yourself can support. You may just have to
3. At any and all costs finish your education to qualify for those high paying jobs. It is likely that you will work sometime during your marriage, probably for decades…. Get paid for it. And remember, your kids and your education are forever…. Husbands, lovers and promises are not!!
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you are sure you will never need it. You absolutely will, and the more the better.
See where you can slide yourself back into this list.... These four little things saved my A($$ more times that I could ever ever write here.
2007-09-25 10:20:17 · answer #1 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously leaving the kids with their father was a bad move on your part. Go for custody of the children and file for divorce, there is no point in staying in a loveless marriage not even for the sake of the children.
2007-09-25 17:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get your kids immediately. Be sure and get documentation from the school that they have not been taken to school since your soon to be ex husband has had them.
Are you planning on getting a lawyer? If so, contact one right away and see what the best option is for getting your kids back into your possession and back into school. If you cannot get them, then you may need to contact law enforcement...but if you are planning on getting a lawyer anyway, then get legal advice about your children.
2007-09-25 17:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer
File for divorce
File for joint custody because the judge will want both parents involved but you go for JOINT custody with you as primary because they need to live with you since their dad is not taking them to school he will get IN BIG TROUBLE in court for that.
2007-09-25 18:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, get a visitation agreement in order through the courts as soon as possible.. discuss the matter with your attorney. this way, you are both bound to keep the schedule of visitation ordered by the court, you will both have copies and will both know when you are supposed to have the kids.
you can also report your kids as truant from school... i don't know what will happen, but i dont think it's lawful for a parent to keep the kids home from school like that.
take care.
2007-09-25 16:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. GET YOU KIDS DUMB ARS.. Do you really want to lose them. Why would you leave them with a man anyway. You know how responsible men are. Thats one of the dumbest moves Ive seen so far.
2007-09-25 17:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋