hi. im 27 weeks pregnant with my first ;) and was planning on throughing a baby shower for a close friend who is 32 weeks pregnant. i was kind of shocked when i asked her mother if she wanted to help out because all she said was "well, its not as though we can afford to throw one for you, you know" i was left somewhat speechless since i am not throwing this shower for her so i can get one in return. my sisters are going to host mine. why would she say something like that? is it really so obviously inappropriate to be pregnant and host a baby shower for somebody else. please give me some opinions ladies as i don't feel it is fair to be treated like this.
2007-09-25 09:47:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are a great friend and you should still throw the shower and explain to her mom that you don't want them to throw one in return. Just tell her that you want to do this for your friend and wanted her help. She just feels bad that they wouldn't be to do it in return.
2007-09-25 09:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by shorty2000always 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Her response was rude and uncalled for. It's not inappropriate to be pregnant & host a shower (or help host a shower).
You need to be quicker with your responses when someone says something that shocks you. It's okay to take a minute & then tell a person how you really feel. Actually, it's not too late now even. Get back in touch with her and explain that you didn't think your conversation went right the last time you spoke. Tell her that you aren't looking for money from her either for her daughters shower or your own, that you just don't want to leave her out of the planning process. Hopefully that helps.
2007-09-25 09:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jennield 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me, it sounds like your friend's mother is jealous that she can't throw the babyshower all on her own because of her financial situation. She's probably feeling insecure. I would continue planning the shower for your friend and if anyone says anything just let them know your sisters are handling your shower. Also, if your friend's mom comes around and wants to help let her and praise her for all her help because that is probably what she needs to hear. Just know that you are above some people and sometimes you might have to help them.
2007-09-25 09:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair. She was rude and out of line. It's not like you are hosting a shower for your friend to host one in return. I would mention it to your friends mom that you are NOT expecting them to host you a shower, that your shower has already been taken care of.
2007-09-25 09:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this lady was just rude and stepping way out of line. I know it can be considered rude to have a baby shower for your 2nd and 3rd child, but it's your first! She just sounds like a hateful old lady! It's not like you were asking that she personally host it herself. Thank goodness you have sisters to take care of things for you!
2007-09-25 09:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by k monster 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either shes PMSing or is a little fed up with all the talk about babies?! who knows. still throw the party 4 ur friend. if her mother doesn't want anything to do with it then that's a great baby shower shes gonna miss. or maybe your friends mom was wanting to throw the baby shower. :)
2007-09-25 09:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by amydc2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That woman is rude!! Of course it's not wrong! Did you tell her about your sisters planning yours? Just say you WANT TO do it.. & plan it with your mother's help or someone else's what an ungrateful lady, she should've been thankful that you want to do that for her daughter.. ugh! some people are just crazy!!
btw, if she was ashamed to not be able to throw one for you she could've said it nicely, you know, like she feels bad because she won't be able or something, she did it just because she's rude & mean!!
God Bless
2007-09-25 09:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by ˚despeяate housewife˚ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow - that was incredibly rude and presumptuous of your friend's mom. I am pregnant and threw a baby shower for a pregnant friend, and no one suspected I was doing it for selfish reasons.
I definately wouldn't include her from here on out until its time to send her an invitation.
2007-09-25 09:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that's at all inappropriate. I think it was inappropriate for her mom to say something like that. Throw the shower, have fun, and don't worry about what her mom says or thinks.
2007-09-25 09:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by MS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what kind of person would say something like that. inform her that you dont need a shower from her and that one has already been planned for you.
2007-09-25 16:41:04 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋