Recount experiences of women being cruel to each other over looks?

Question

Recount experiences of women being cruel to each other over looks .

Ethier becuase the woman was good looking and other women mocked her or the other way around .

which one is more common ?

Why does this happen ?

Which one is more destructive ?

Answer 1

I've seen this quite often. The girls I knew in school were really cruel to each other over such superficial things.

Answer 2

I'm not like that. However, I've had friends who were rude to me in front of guys (especially guys they liked!)...I couldn't figure out why for the longest time, until finally someone suggested to me that maybe it happens because they were jealous of the way I look. I really didn't believe it at first. I don't think I'm that "special" to look at, so it didn't make much sense. However, the friends of mine that acted this way were pretty (my opinion) but overweight, and very sensitive about their weight. Maybe putting me down (because I wasn't overweight) was the only way they knew how to make themselves feel better, and a product of their insecurity. I have to admit, at first it made me angry, but when I finally understood why they did it, I felt more sorry for them than anything else. I've seen men do this to other men, though it's usually not over "looks". It's usually over financial success (or lack thereof) as if the car they drive defines them as a person. It's sad to see so many people have so much insecurity. We are much more than what we look like, and much more than the cars we drive. It would be nice if people could look a little deeper and accept each other for who they are: without the need for competition.

Answer 3

i saw this woman come into a shop
she looked really nice, beautiful summery long dress on, nice straw hat, it was summer

yet other women were staring at her with, what the hell are you wearing eyes

i thought that was c**p
i think she looked lovely and wished i was wearing it
people are judgmental no matter whether they are women, man child, if they exist in society, they will judge others

it spart jealousy, why cant i wont i wear that
and part who does she think she is dressing up like that, looking so nice,
its not 'normal'
if your noticeable in any way
your noticed
and judged

women are quite bad with judging other women though
its in our nature to be competitive with each other

both are just as common

i think both are also as destructive as one an other
but someone can change their clothes, you cant change your looks if your beautiful
so the beauty 'wins' by default on being the most destructive

Answer 4

What a great question! This is actually my 'soapbox' but, for expediency's sake, I will keep it short! I witnessed what was done to my mother (and heard what was done to her by my fathers' sister, before I was born) for years and having inherited her looks I too was shunned, harassed, cursed, lost jobs (Too many. Because the women would get so jealous they would band together and tell lies -or worse- to get rid of me. And it always worked)! Once my husband introduced me to a female friend of his in a coffee shop in Houston and asked her to get me a glass of water. She did! Just as I was about to bring it to my lips I saw a dead fly in the bottom! Tried and tried telling my husband she had done it out of jealous spite and he defended her saying I was paranoid! Most men, I learned, haven't a clue! Men (of understanding) have told me its because I'm considered very attractive and women see me as a threat! (a threat of what?) And to get 'used to it'! Which to a degree I have but it is still unfair and hurtful. When I used to visit my ex-fiance' in Phoenix the Hispanic women would lean out of their windows and deliberately throw me the most heinous looks! Very hurtful! And done so consistently it got scary and I stopped going there. I would say its very, very destructive!
I have had only one girlfriend my entire life! And even she was hurtful and mean! Men can't imagine this happening to them on a daily basis! A day of innocent shopping can be 'tainted' by the ugly looks thrown at you when you have done nothing to deserve such treatment. Which happens to me even to this day. I can only describe it as sharp looks of pure hate from women - total strangers - always. Literally, taking my breath away! (And I won't go into what 'nasty, petty' remarks they say to hurt as well).
Recently, I began driving a friend's new Mercedes and you won't believe how aggressive women get when they see me driving here in Santa Fe! Some are behind me, and speed up to the rear of the car, within inches and I can clearly see the expressions of INDIGNATION, HATE and JEALOUSY on their faces! Its' actually pretty SCARY and those times I feel very threatened! Even my aging hasn't diminished this nearly enough. These other races (and especially my own) throw me these evil looks as if I had run over their child - deliberately! When I see a woman of beauty I will tell her so. If I see a woman wearing something nice I will tell her so.
What is wrong with American women that they behave so atrociously? They can't be that insecure and petty? (Can they!?)
I have seriously considered wearing a (hidden) mini-cam! Then perhaps recording it...or moving to Thailand or Indonesia where the women rarely indicate such petty small mindedness. Very little jealousy.

Answer 5

I remember one time in high school where I was sitting at a table near the cafeteria. I overheard two girls literally ripping into the girl who was named Homecoming Queen that year. It was a girl I didn't know personally and couldn't recall ever having seen her at the school. They were making all kinds of nasty comments about her. They made fun of her Southern accent and then went on to say that she had to put on gobs of makeup just to look pretty. They also made comments about her hair and her clothing choices. It sounded like pure jealousy on their part. I later looked for her picture in the yearbook and thought she was rather nice looking.

Answer 6

Women who have low self-esteem or who aren't completely comfortable with themselves, and the one they are with, seem to be prone to making fun of others. And then there are just the cruel people out there that fully enjoy making fun of others (who knows why - lack of something to do in their lives...)

No matter what comment is made, they are both distructive. Trying to build oneself up on somebody else's shortcomings never works, and is never attractive. I believe someone has to be happy with themselves before they can be happy with someone else... some just can't make it to that point in life.

Answer 7

I was at a party once with some of my husband's work friends. The girls would not speak to me, but I went out of my way to try to be social. At the end of the night a couple of them approached me and said "we were all prepared to hate you because you're so pretty and skinny, but you're nice so now we like you." (They were drunk, but the words stuck with me.) Some women are used to pretty girls acting like stuck-up snobs so they go on the defensive right away and it takes a lot to break down their defenses and make them see a pretty girl can be a friend.

Answer 8

Both are destructive because they are derived from the idea that women SHOULD, always, be judged for their looks, and nothing more.

Answer 9

Once I mentioned to my girlfriend that her friend was cute without any evil intent (friend was married) and she would not give me time of day for a week... Lots of girls have low self-esteem and feminists take it to the all time low... Disclaimer - some girls are not like that though.

Answer 10

Gee, I've been out of school for so long that I know longer know or care what that generation does. I promise you, they will grow out of it.