2007-09-25 09:30:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not this man.
2007-09-25 09:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Marriage isn't always so simple. Love is an action verb. Most likely both spouses want to have a loving marriage, but for whatever reasons they gave up on actually loving each other. After a while it makes you restless and it's not uncommon to find both spouses are straying. If that's not the case, then the next most likely scenario is he does love his wife but she does not or can not love him back. The girlfriend is now life-support for a dying marriage. If he didn't have a girlfriend, he would end the marriage. She is keeping him distracted from how shitty his real life and marriage are. We are human and will only put someone else's 'needs' above our own for so long without reciprocation. No man in a happy marriage has the time and energy left over to cheat. She must be ignoring him in more ways than one.
2016-05-18 03:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, yes -- I truly loved my wife and I cheated on her. This was about 10 years ago, and I have never cheated again, so I am telling you this with crystal clear hindsight. I was addicted to lust and didn't have the willpower, the emotional maturity, to turn down a woman who came onto me pretty strongly. I have grown up a great deal since then, and even though I still very much regret what I did, I can honestly claim that I turned myself into a better man as a result of the trauma my infidelity put my wife and me through. My wife and I have now been married for 21 years, and I appreciate tremendously that she did not leave me.
Later edit: Willie above me is correct, now that I read his post. After my cheating, I attended numerous SAA and SLAA meetings and they helped a great deal in getting my addiction under control.
2007-09-25 09:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No.....not a chance. When you truly love your wife you won't cheat in mind or body. In order to cheat the thought has to be there to start with. When you're in love the thought is not even there.
2007-09-25 10:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a man but, yes I know man who claimed he truly loved his wife and kids said he would never leave his family said he had a good sex life with the wife but, had a lover he also loved said there was more passion in the bedroom he wouldn't leave her either even after his wife found out. Said he loved them both.....
2007-09-25 09:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not as far as I'm concerned.
How can you look someone you truly love in the eye and lie to them about being faithful?
If a man (or woman) says they truly love someone and can straight-up lie to them by cheating, they aren't capable of being truly in love with that person.
Sex has EVERYTHING to do with TRUE love.
Sorry folks....there's nothing true about cheating. That's why it's called CHEATING.
2007-09-25 09:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by Barbi T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe if you truly love your spouse in the emotional, physical and spiritual sense then there will be no desire to cheat and if cheating occurs then that love that was supposedly there is either not real or not strong enough to overcome temptation.
2007-09-25 09:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by trayl65 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think so. Because sometime people just get so caught up in things that they aren't thinking clearly and cheat. It is not that they don't love their life, they just lack the vision required to remember that they do love her.
2007-09-25 09:53:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. you would have to be a sociopath to cheat. it's a form of physcopathic behavior. People say it's just about sex, but that's not true, it's about doing the right thing even when no one's watching. There are some who honestly believe and honestly have themselves conviced that it's not a crime if you don't get caught.
2007-09-25 09:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by blujello 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes. There are a lot of men who struggle with sex addiction that find themselves unable to say no in a situation like that. Fortunately there are a lot of 12 step programs available to help them deal with this, and thus, remain faithful. S.A., S.A.A., S.L.A., F.M.O. are a few.
2007-09-25 09:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by Willie D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No.
A man who truly loves his wife won't do that, regardless of the circumstances.
2007-09-25 09:34:18 · answer #11 · answered by Mathsorcerer 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋