So, what do YOU think makes some people attractive to you and others are not?

Question

Is it something instinctual or were we "programmed" to consdier some traits "attractive" and others "unattractive." If so, who programs us? Our parents? Society?

Answer 1

I think that, in large part, television, family and society in general has programmed most of what or who people are attracted to.
Personally, I find myself few times attracted to some people untypical for my usual taste, which demonstrates to me, that despite what influence I may have had or what I consider is attractive in my mind, there are underlying, natural and instinctual reactions to certain people.
Have also noticed that my tastes have changed throughout the years, even in what attracts me of people internally. When younger, as many women, I had a weakness for "bad boys" (or vixen type women, which I admit, still like), because of being unaware of the distinction between a "bad boy" and a man who is confident, secure and assertive. Now that I am older and a little wiser, have oftentimes seen that many "bad boys" are insecure of themselves and even a bit afraid, the same applies to many women who's defensive approach is a way to protect themselves.

Answer 2

I think when we're first young, it starts with whatever everybody else thinks - hence the popularity contests in grade/high school. Once we are older (college and beyond), I think our ideas of who is attractive versus who isn't all depends on our experiences, and how our own personalities have developed.

Answer 3

Yes, I would say all of that. I read somewhere that we have the traits of our ideal mate developed by the time we are 8 years old! Who knows!?

Answer 4

Some maybe attracted towards Brunetts since I am one.
and some may not.

Answer 5

Not passivity, a lack of intelligence, no sense of humor, indecisiveness, a lack of fidelity, no charm, no money, etc.