Many women hold men to certain rules about how to act.. yet follow a whole different set of rules for themselves.
Thats wrong
2007-09-25 09:18:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
There's an old saying about women that holds a lot of truth:
A woman will say one thing, think another, and do something completely different.
In other words, sometimes I don't think most women even realize that they're doing it. Women are more prone to making emotion-based decisions, and when they're telling you how to act in a relationship, that's truly what they "feel" is the right thing. But when faced with their own behavior, now they "feel" that it's the right thing to do the exact opposite.
Obviously this is a bit general and doesn't apply to all women (or no men), but I'd like to think everyone else here is smart enough to realize that.
2007-09-25 09:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Erin is either joking or serious, but she confirms what you're saying. This is a double standard stemming from a few things, misled feminism included. My advice is to concentrate on what a good woman is like and cut bait early if a woman you're dating shows clear signs she's not worth it. Remember, now guys like you and I are doing the preaching, the only difference is there's more integrity to our preaching. It's very effective to reward a good woman, probably more effective than going the route of Adam Carolla or Bill Maher. Leading by example is one of the best ways to crack difficult nuts. Ha.
2007-09-25 09:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wonder who those women are. Maybe its the women your attracted to? If your with a woman that does that, you need to find a different type of woman to have a relationship with.
My boyfriend and I don't have rules we have an agreeable understanding with out even having to discuss it. I guess it goes on the maturity of the relationship.
In my past relationships , there were no rules. Can you list these rules?
2007-09-25 09:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by krennao 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Treat a man with kindness and do as much for him a you can without being used. When there is love, I think this would come naturally. The "when there is love" part is the most important prerequisite.
I wonder "how many" women were preachy and took unfair advantage of you. You were the common denominator. You attracted that. I doubt that I am the only exception.
May you have better luck , in future. You are welcome to answer this Q of mine, to get your 2 pts. Fair is fair.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070925134514AAeMHfw.
C.:)!!
2007-09-25 09:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, for one, we don't like to be embarrassed, if you're referring to rules about how to act in public. If you're talking about rules within the relationship, oftentimes it's not so much "rules" as it is about basic guidelines of how to treat someone decently. In which case, if you made up rules along those lines, your girlfriend should follow and respect them as well.
My husband always says my standards are unfair and I don't follow them myself, and sometimes he is right. Other times, though, it's more like it's his fault because he never comes up with those types of things on his own. It's not my fault I think about things and tell him. It's perfectly all right for him to come up with stuff too, but he doesn't think like that.
2007-09-25 11:24:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Really? It's wrong to apply a double standard in relationships?
Because men have done it for centuries. Maybe you are just not enjoying it when it does not benefit YOU.
Wow - thumbs down for holding up a mirror.
I guess that's expected in a forum like this one.
2007-09-25 09:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by not yet 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Typical stuff. Mostly due to social programming making them believe it's acceptable. You just have to find a good one (one who does very little of that BS).
2007-09-25 09:27:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
women want to b understood & respected, so they ask u to ask a certain way sometimes. If they are acting in some way u dont like, telll them, calmly, to change .be nice & kind too. but only ask them to change something appropriate & dont make a joke out of it. So nbd!
2007-09-25 09:22:51 · answer #8 · answered by advice giver & needer! 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Good question. Thats why I keep my relationship under wraps because I don't want an audience of jealous wenches to answer to.
2007-09-25 09:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by fanny gardener 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No... that's the way women are...
Rules are meant to protect the nest, whether the nest builder follows them or not.
2007-09-25 09:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋