Daughter has the other room. (Its only a 2 bedroom house) Parents have a surprise baby..a boy. The boy gets put into the room with the 8 year old girl and the siblings have to grow up in that same bedroom together until she's 18 and he's 10. The girl finally has enough and moves out...
Should the parents have let these 2 share a room all this time??
2007-09-25 08:47:04 · 31 answers · asked by ABC123 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Parents were constantly spending money on a new car. New car stereos. TV's. Shopping Sprees.
2007-09-25 08:53:10 · update #1
I don't really appreciate all the "What were the parents sposed to do? Let one kid sleep in the backyard comments" This girl was me. I shared a room with my tattle tail brother for years. I didn't like it at all. I watched my parents spend all their money on everything else. Yes we shared a bed for quite a while. Long story short...after I left my mom got another "foster" child....a boy, so she had 2 teenage boys, decided them sharing a room (like I had to do all those years) wasn't good enough and has expanded her living quarters. Fair?!??
2007-09-25 08:56:53 · update #2
My dad knows now and accepts it was bad when we were a family. My mother kept me extremely isolated from society. I was sent to school, not allowed to talk to anyone, and no extracurricular activities. I felt like I was in prison. I no longer talk to her. I've tried on more than one occasion to talk with her about my whole childhood. She and my dad are getting a divorce and she's since moved down the road a bit. She seems to hate me. This sharing a room thing is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to her. I had heard 2 opposite sex siblings in the same room after a certain age was illegal and was just curious about what other people thought of this. Thank you each and every one for your responses.
2007-09-25 11:13:00 · update #3
No. 18 is too old to be sharing a room. At some point in a young person's life, the natural need for privacy should have dictated that the parents needed a bigger house.
When your family gets bigger, you need to upgrade, not just stuff all the kids in the spare room.
I dont blame her for getting fed up with her parents completely non-existent regard for her needs.
2007-09-25 08:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by allusian_fields 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
That's actually not legal. I don't know what else they can do but they better come up with something. After a certain age there is a law that says a boy and girl cannot share a room. It's not right at all. The teen girl needs privacy and little boys do too. This is an illegal situation. I know they may not have any other choice. When I was growing up my parents actually slept in the living room because it was not right to have my brother and I in a room.
2007-09-25 10:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation but you'll have to make due. We also live in a very small house. Technically it's a 3 bedroom but one of the rooms is no bigger than most walk in closets. When my children were younger the baby slept in a bassent by my side of the bed for the first six months since I breast fed it was just easier to keep him there. After that we moved my daughter into my son's larger room. They both remained there for another six months until she turned 1 then we converted the small room and made it a bedroom. My suggestion would be to see what other space in your home could be converted such as part of a garage, basement, etc and build another room. It's not usually too big a deal while they are little but being different genders and with such a huge age gap it will be important for them each to have their own space.
2007-09-25 08:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Orion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate that your parents did not priortize properly when you were growing up- once your brother grew out of infancy, they should have done the remodeling necessary to give you and your brother seperate sleeping quarters. My aunt and uncle did a similiar thing- but it was three girls sharing one tiny bedroom and one double bed, while the parent's had a boat, a camper, beer and steaks, etc..... Fast forward 30 yrs and 2 of the 3 girls have nothing to do with the parents. It's not just the bedroom issue- that is part of a whole systematic decision making process that does not make the kids the top priority. Sure, sometimes life sucks, but you try the hardest to do the best for your kids, before the boats and car stereos.
2007-09-25 09:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most likely they would have moved into a bigger house by the time the kids are older. I see nothing wrong with a brother and sister sharing a room when they are very young. If they have to share a room for a longer time out of necessity, it could be done, even though there would be some sacrifice of privacy.
2007-09-25 08:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by G.V. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not appropriate. In my state, you can't allow a boy and a girl sibling to live in the same room after a certain age. The parents will lose custody of the kids until they are able to provide each gender child with their own space. (in my state anyway) If that means they convert a dining room into a bedroom, then so be it. If the parents have the money for all these other luxuries though, they have the money to either add another room to the house or rent/buy a 3 bedroom house.
**I just read your latest update. I'm sorry that happened to you. It sounds real crummy.
2007-09-25 08:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
For the first year are so, you and your husband can have the newborn baby in your room.
That will give you a year or so
The answer is, after that, get a 3 bedroom house
Or look for a room to use a bedroom, some people use dinning rooms, dens, basements, attics
2007-09-25 08:54:45 · answer #7 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, assuming there really wasn't another space in the house for each to have a spearate room, and that they couldn't afford a three bedroom home, where else would everyone sleep?
Would she have felt differently if her sibling had been a girl?
And the brother of a good friend of mine had to share a bedroom with his grandma when he was little, so she should count her blessings. ;-)
2007-09-25 08:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by adoptive mom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't have let them share a room after the girl was about 13 at that age her body starts to change and things start to happen at younger boy doesn't need to see or know about yet and she doesn't want him too...but if its only a 2 bed room house its kinda hard i would try to add on or make the basement or attic a room
my cousins shared a room til she was about 14 and he was 12 and the loved it til then but from then up they moved into the 3rd bed room
2007-09-25 08:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Can share for a little while, maybe 2-3 years. Different sexes; too big an age difference. Girl needs privacy. Not that a boy doesn't need his privacy, but girl is older
2007-09-25 08:50:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋