My girlfriend and I are going through a big problem in our relationship. I work for a fire department and work 24 hour shifts at a time. I work a female coworker and work together on a regular basis. My girlfriend is unfortable with us working together. It is strictly business with my work partner. I have tried to get my schedule changed but I can't get one. I have no idea what to do. I love my girlfriend and don' t want to loose her. Ladies I need her help on this one.
2007-09-25 08:41:40 · 11 answers · asked by myztkl1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's really sad that your girlfriend feels this way. Have you ever done anything for her not to trust you? If not, you do have a serious problem that you and your girlfriend are going to have to sit down and talk about. Work is work, sometimes you have to work with the opposite sex. Not to mention right now we are talking about work, what happens in day to day life when you have to have contact with a female? You are not going to be able to live your life surrounding yourself by only men. I'm not saying you should leave her, but the two of you are going to have to have a serious heart to heart and come to some sort of agreement, whether it's splitting the sheets or working on trust issues.
2007-09-25 09:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For goodness sakes, if you love your girlfiend and dont' want to lose her, then don't leave her! You've really must care for her if you've taken the measure to try to get your shift changed. However, it's you're girlfriend's insecurity problem that you really need to look at. And you really have to look at how you're affirming her with these insecurities. What made her suspcious about this female co-worker. Have you been talking or spending inappropriate amounts of time with this co-worker? It's natural for every significant other to be a little insecure, but it's your job as her boyfriend to re-affirm her that she's the one that you love.
Good luck!
2007-09-25 15:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by handler25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your girlfriend cannot accept this then maybe you should leave her. I hope it doesn't come to this, but if you are a firefighter you are likely always going to be around women for 24 hours straight. Your girl needs to learn how to trust you, and if she doesn't that is not fair to you (unless she has a prior reason for not trusting you). Good luck.
2007-09-25 15:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Workcompguru31 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Christ.....forget it man. You need this crap doing what you do for a living? If the girlfriend is that insecure you don't need that baggage.
Tell her to grow the hell up. Either that or start looking for a woman with alot more maturity who can laugh at this crap instead of getting her panties in a bunch.
2007-09-25 15:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you've done all you can to keep her secure then she the one with the problem if she is or can be a secure confident women then great more power to her and you life will be great as well jelousy is an ugly emotion that only get's in the way of things she shouldn't let her emotions destroy what you guys have it seems to me you've done your part not it her turn to put her emotions in check
2007-09-25 15:56:47 · answer #5 · answered by classynsassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and explain to her how nothing is going on. maybe take her out on a romantic date to show her just how much she means to you. she needs to feel treasured and loved. also, on her part, she needs to be able to trust you. that is one of the key building blocks in relationships and if she cant trust you, its going to go nowhere.
2007-09-25 15:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your girlfriend is this jealous and demanding now, it's only going to get worse.
you can't help who your co-workers are, and apparently your girlfriend has abandonment and trust issues.
your girlfriend has a problem, and she might consider getting some help
2007-09-25 15:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think she is being ridiculous and needs to lighten up . . . I know you love her but I certainly wouldn't cater to her on this. Tell her to put on her big girl panties and deal with reality.
2007-09-25 15:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let her go with you a night or two so she can see how it goes. Is your partner prettier than her or something?
2007-09-25 15:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by RoseRed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's THIS jealous now.... it gets worse after the wedding. Be aware..,.
2007-09-25 15:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by quantumclaustrophobe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋