What would be a normal sexual relationship between a man and a woman of 22yrs of age? The guy i'm with does not want to have sex. With my previous relationships, this has been the complete opposite, where the guy is always wanting sex. But this new guy of mine never wants to. And when I try to initiate it, he tells me "I pressure him too much and that it will happen when it happens." So now, I don't even bother, and he seems to never have any sexual interest in me. When we have had sex a few times in the past (we've been dating for 6months) he would ...of course... "get his" and then he'd have no interest in me and would just lay there. When I asked him about it he said "I don't care what you want." That really hurt my feelings! Maybe he's holding off on the sex thing because he becomes very selfish and pigish whenever he is sexual with a woman? I think that's what it is. He views women that have sex with him as something different/an object and he's disrespectful. What do you think?
2007-09-25 07:49:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Okay, after high school, relationships should really start normalizing.
Sex is a healthy part of any relationship. If he doesn't want it, he's either:
1. suffering from a serious medical condition causing a hormonal imbalance
2. not attracted to you and too much of a wimp to tell you
3. a closeted homosexual
Above and beyond the lack of sex, if he treats you like that, why are you sticking around? Wouldnt common sense tell you to find someone who'll treat you better?
2007-09-25 07:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Brandi,
You have figured it out, i.e., to an extent. Your guy sucks. Kick him to the curb. More importantly, determine how you ended up with this guy, and stop repeating the pattern.
Please remember, who you have in your life, is your choice. It is better to be alone, by yourself, than to be alone with someone. You don't need to be with an insensitive, premature ejaculator, to be sexually satisfied, or more accurately sexually frustrated. You can do a better job, by yourself, and not have an a**hole in your midst.
When you meet a new prospect, elicit information about his former relationships. Bear in mind, he may be well aware, talking about old girlfriends is a taboo. He may need some coaxing. Ultimately, you want to determine his current relationship with these women. Are they friends, he may, or may not, have lost touch with, or, are they a long line of "bitches", he abhors?
If they are a long line of "bitches", he abhors. You are destined to joined them. Please don't be part of his repeating pattern. The world, is really full of nice guys, many of whom would treasure you. However, you will never have the opportunity to meet them, if you waste your time with jerks.
Larry
2007-09-25 09:20:51 · answer #2 · answered by Larry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WTF...Girl you are 22 you need and can do so much better!
Women have sexual desires that need fulfilled and he is a complete @$$ about it!
Get rid of him....look at in the long run---Do u see yourself with this man forever?? Especially being this unhealthy in the sexual dept...No you don't, so quit wasting your time on a low-life selfish asshole!
You are too young and beautiful to be with someone who doesn't value you! Get rid of him!
2007-09-25 08:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by brooklyn7582 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has some serious issues with women. For your boyfriend to tell you that he doesn't care what you think, is NEVER a good sign. I would say move on and be with someone that respects you and cares about your feelings.
2007-09-25 08:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by N L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you can do a lot better! You're obviously a lot more perceptive than he is. If he isn't willing to meet your needs after you have met his, I would move on. There's no reason to be with someone who is disresepectful.
2007-09-25 07:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually older women dont go for younger boys. Me myself im 22 and i dont date anyone younger than me the same age or more than 4 years older than me. I just have to have that security feeling and maturity
2016-04-06 00:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by Shane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Won't last. Maybe he is married and has kids.
2007-09-25 07:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hes gay.
hahahahahahhaha.
sorry sweetheart.
goodluck.
2007-09-25 07:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Taylorr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you deserve better!
2007-09-25 07:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Minerva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋