He doesn't work, I pay all the bills, and when I go home I'm expected to do the housework aswell! What should I do?!
2007-09-25 07:37:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
LMAO
You've asked the wrong question honey. What you need to ask is, "Why would I allow myself to be treated this way?"
2007-09-25 07:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly you cannot make him get a job. What you can do is stop paying his bills, and insist that he contribute to the house hold bills if you are living together. However you have to mean it when you tell him this.
Be prepared to take some drastic steps such as shutting off his cell phone if he has one, refusing to buy him things such as video games, canceling cable if all he does is watch TV, or even kicking him out if it comes to it. It's not a pleasant situation but right now he knows you will take care of him and therefore sees no reason to get a job.
He will continue using you to pay his way in life because it's easier than working, until you refuse to pay his way. I am sorry you are in this situation but that is the hard truth.
2007-09-25 14:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by sprite_4fire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight out, either get a job or get out. If he does not leave change the locks the next time he is not home, and put his belonging (what few he has) outside. Then go to your local police station and let them know what is going on so that if he starts any trouble it will be on record when you have to call the police.
You are a better person than that, you should not be supporting him. If he has no type of disablility or such than there is no reason for him not to get a job. He is being disrespectful to you. You are enable him to be this way. You need to stand up for yourself.
2007-09-25 14:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by muscnmyhart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible to change other people. They have to want to change. If they don't want to change....don't enable them. Stop giving him money, sex, food...whatever he is getting for free. There is an old saying...."Why pay for the milk when the cow is free?" As long as you keep giving him what he wants, he's not going to give you what you want simply because he is a lazy, self-centered couch potato. Next time he goes out spending your hard earned pay check,---Pack his bags and put them on the porch.... with a note telling him when he gets a job, a steady, well paying job....and can pay y ou back for supporting him... then perhaps you will consider marrying him....but not just living with his lazy behind. PS...don't forget to change the locks at the same time. Those that don't work don't eat!
2007-09-25 14:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by rejoiceinthelord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on strike. Seriously, ignore what he expects of you and do what you expect of you. (This should include telling him to get his lazy butt of the couch, by the way.) He should get the point and if that doesn't work leave him. A relationship is a two way street - if he can't hold up his end you are just enabling him.
2007-09-25 14:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Laura L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have the respect for you to get a job and help out around the house, then he doesn't deserve you. If you want to salvage the relationship, then give him an ultimatem. Get a job now, or I'm out.
2007-09-25 14:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by jennyred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him to a job agency or seach job for him that might interest him in yahoo jobs, this may help. also ask him why he dont want to work, if this is something that has happeded recently like if he lost his job give him a few weeks but if hes been job less for months, then he is just plain lazy, tell him to get his lazy *** to work or else leave him.
2007-09-25 14:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by cs2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make people do things they don't want to do. If you push someone and actually get them to what you want then they will recent you instead of thank you. You just have to say the right words to motivate him so he will go do it.
Although you know, he kind of sounds like a loser, why even bother wasting your time?
2007-09-25 14:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anthonylikes2...☺ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put "Why don't you get a job" by The Offspring on a loop.
2007-09-25 14:43:03 · answer #9 · answered by John's Secret Identity™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't asked him to get a job yet?
You aren't his personal slave to do all of this. Tell him that if he doesn't help, you have to kick him out.
2007-09-25 14:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋