How do you handle your feelings for a human Iceberg, without ending like the Titanic?

Question

I've got a crash on an exceptional person, that happens to be the most distant one I've ever immagined of. What would you do, take the risk of the crash even if there are many chances to end at "the bottom of the Atlantic" ? Or keep your feelings only for yourself?
(This is my virgin travel in real love and devotion).

Domna, are you sure what/whom I'm talking about?

Christina, thank you. That's encouraging.

Lady Leonarda. I'm honoured and embarassed. Of course you know better.

Answer 1

There is not any risk..You use your level, your personality, and you have all the fonds to do it...
Go ahead, and dont scare of anything.
The iceberg may be the sweetest person in the world, because maybe this iceberg wants to show this outside...

Answer 2

Douglas Dewar writes in Man a Special Creation as follows: Modern experimental work indicates that variations in organisms appear in consequence of 1) the duplication or multiplication of the chromosomes that occur in the cell nucleus, 2) in the translocation or displacement of parts of chromosomes, 3) the loss of chromosomes or parts of chromosomes, 4) gene mutations, which appear ot be the result of the rearrangement of the molecules that make up the gene, or the action of inhibitors or stimulators of the genes, 5) loss of genes, 6) cross-breeding varieties. All the above causes are simply a shuffling or rearrangement of parts of the chromosomes or of genes. Such rearrangements may be expected to yield a considerable amount of variation, but clearly must be within the type... ...If a species be defined as a freely interbreeding community, no new animal species has yet been bred by any experimenter. This is very remarkable in view of the fact that breeding experiements lasting over some 30 years have been made with the vinegar fly, Drosophila melanogaster. This produces about 25 generations in a year, hence some 900 successive generations of this species have been bred in the laboratory in the unsuccessful attempt to convert it into another type. This corresponds to about 30,000 years of human existence. There appears to exist no mechanism whereby a new type of organism can arise from an existing one. This explains why all breeds of dogs, pigeons, etc., despite their great diversity are still dogs, pigeons, etc. That it is impossible to change a dog or a pigeon into anything else but a dog or a pigeon is evident from such facts as the following which are taken from the work of Dr. Hurst, already quoted: "1) The gene is the sole basis of hereditary transmissions. 2) In every case that has been investigated more than one pair of genes are concerned in the development of each character...Genetical experiments show that in the simplest case, at least four pairs of genes are concerned in the organisation and development of the wild agouti coat colour of rabbits, and many other genes are also concerned." The rearrangement of the molecules that make up one or more of the genes that regulate the colour of the rabbits' fur is likely to effect some change in that colour, but even if there be a simultaneous arrangement of the molecules of all such genes, the effect on the animal's coat is confined to the colour; all such changes are necessarily within narrow limits, and this applies euqally to the genes that regulate other parts of the rabbit, and those of all other animals. Take a simple one-called organism, such as the amoeba - shuffle ad infinitum the constituent molecules of all the genes that control organisation of the amoeba, and what can the result be other than a modified ameoeba? In view of the discoveries in genetics made during the past 35 years, those who have a legal training marvel how any geneticist can believe that the great variety of animals that now exist are offspring of some ancestor far more simple than an amoeba

Answer 3

Alex, from my experience, the ice is really only a layer. A little warmth and it will begin to melt. It may melt only for you, and if you push too hard it may re-freeze.

Okay, enough with the analogy. I think people like that very often just want someone who genuinely cares and will be there for them. You don't ever need to say it, you need to show it. Sometimes silent presence speaks louder than even sincere promises. Sometimes a look or a light touch on the hand can give strength to someone who feels weak inside. This is speaking from my experience. It took a year of her going off and doing her own thing for her to come back and say "You were right. You saw things inside me that I didn't see, and I thought you were crazy, but you were right. Nobody ever loved me like that." It was satisfying, but too late in my case.

If time and circumstance are on your side then I say go for it and best of luck.

Answer 4

The more distant the person, the bigger the challenge....
There's no way you can end up at the bottom if you're on the wings of Amor....
Go for it with an open heart and don't be afraid to get hurt.
And don't forget: people who are icebergs on the outside, take a looong time to melt..... and make the love game exceptional. Good luck:)

Answer 5

Alex, I know the feeling. When I met my husband, he was very intellectual, very sophisticated, and he felt very distant to me, even more so because I was in love with him. Our relationship was intellectual and platonic for a long while, until one day he actually kissed me. I couldn't believe it, but more and more I realised he was human too... So briefly what I am saying is that you must also see that people are human, and the ice can break. Of course never lose your respect for others, that's not what I mean by ice-breaking.

Answer 6

Some days when the skies cloud over
We don't know what to do
Should we give up or carry on
Or move to somewhere new?

If we always wanted summer
Forever we would roam
And the closer we got to the sunshine
The further we'd be from home

The sooner that we learn
To see the seasons through
The closer we'll become
There lives eternal sun...

Answer 7

....hmmmmm. People like Icebergs carry most of their unpleasant load under the surface of things. To avoid painful crossed course collisions I suggest that you tow the big berg to warmer climes like a sauna and perhaps the sweating action will reveal more of the inside.


Also you can put on a scuba suit & take the plunge and go down there & take an Up Close & personal look.

Answer 8

Take a chance but go reallllllllly slow.
Always make sure to wear the lifejacket some things are really not worth the risk although occasionally you find some that are.

Answer 9

Alex...didn't you take my advice that I gave you?? I told you what to do and how to do it. :) Be careful because we don't want to lose u at the bottom of the ocean.... but if you think you can handle the risks, go for it.

edit: I'm not sure, Alex, but I thought you were talking about the "highly qualified and distant to approach person" that u mentioned in your question a week ago. Am I wrong??

Answer 10

Alex Dear,
I would definitely take all the risks. Because when we don't take risks in the future we always say to ourselves "what would have happened if i had taken the risk?"
I regret more for the things that i haven't done than for the things that i have done.
And in my point of view flirting is one of the best parts of our lives. Why keep my feelings to myself? I live my life and love even if i sink like Titanic :)) (Sweetie you are coming from the country of Eros... do i need to say more?:)
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