2007-09-25 05:32:19 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My opinion on marriage:
What is marriage exactly? Is it a paper? No. It is a commitment. Does that mean you're not committed if you're not married? No. But if you ARE committed when you're not married then why not make it stronger? If you can promise to your lover "I'll be with you whether you are sick or healthy, rich or poor, forever" then why NOT get married? That's what you are doing -- making a committed promise.
Divorce is not an option for me. You should get to know the person you want to commit your life to very well before marriage. If you're not willing to commit such a promise, then I'd say you're not very committed at all and you know you can cut off the committment whenever and with little effort.
2007-09-25 05:56:30 · update #1
Let me start by saying I'm not married. I look at it as a very serious matter and I respect it as an institution. I don't feel ready to take such a step, as I want it to happen when I feel mature enough, with somebody who will feel right, and I would like it to last forever.
2007-09-25 05:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lilaki 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very important...I come from parents who have been married for 31 yrs so far and my grandparents where also married for a long time. I want to be able to share my life with someone and be able to have a serious commitment. Somehow a legal paper makes a difference. Some people say it doesn't but it does. I was living with my son's dad, not married and he just got up and left me for someone else. He said to me it wasn't like we were married and didn't want to work things out. So being married to me is important, you are making an oath to your mate and God that you will honor and cherish this person forever, no matter what, until death do you part.
2007-09-25 12:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by .:*eri*licious*:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the past, marriage was seen as a commitment but now people get married for a day and then divorce. Some people just see it as a bit of fun. Excitement for a day.
2007-09-25 12:35:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite important because it shows dedication, people who live together and refuse to get married have as they say "one foot out the door". However you have to know someone well enough to know that you truly do want to marry them. It has been proven that people who are married stay together longer because there is more of a commitment, even with the high rate of divorce.
2007-09-25 12:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is important to me because it is a foundational God given mandate. It's more than a human decision to choose a certain gender or lifestyle. Marriage is foundational to our society as a whole because from it - children are supposed to be born. Now - things in our world today - many people don't share my values - but.... you asked. So, I believe that God instituted marriage and that he created the world - children can only be born of the union between a man and a woman - no matter how people shake up the matter or do in vitro - the only natural way to conceive is the union between a man and a woman. That is foundational since the beginning. Marriage is to be held in high honor because God says that it is to be considered important and of value. Yeah - marriage is super important to me.
2007-09-25 12:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not married yet, but when I do get married it is not about religion or financial reasons, but to commit myself to one person who I would love with everything I have, I would want to spend the rest of my life and grow old with that person. That's just the kind of person I am.
2007-09-25 12:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by Soda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important if you need a piece of paper saying you commit to the other person.
2007-09-25 12:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Reckless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A vow before God, the Almighty..is not to be taken lightly.
So many do, i think due to NOT getting to know a person thru and thru...
There is more to a marriage than Sex....below are 20 questions that MUST BE ADDRESSED...if there is any apprehension, to answer...than one should question the true meaning of marriage...When i did this...the one who i was engaged too...had NO idea WHY any of this needed to be discussed...
So I saved myself a lifetime of sheer misery...i never have answered this long...but feel its worth the read....toodles...
Question 1: What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis?
Question 2: Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organized? Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organization?
Question 3: How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten? Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?
Question 4: What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means and through what efforts?
Question 5: What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend?
Question 6: How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening?
Question 7: If one of us doesn't want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay?
Question 8: How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other's level of ambition?
Question 9: Am I comfortable giving and receiving love sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my love for him or her?
Question 10: Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More?
Question 11: Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares the meals? Who cleans up afterward?
Question 12: Is each of us happy with the other's approach to health? Does one have habits or tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)?
Question 13: What place does the other's family play in our family life? How often do we visit or socialize together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? How often?
Question 14: If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have with their grandchildren? How much time will they spend together?
Question 15: Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us?
Question 16: How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? For how long? Will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping?
Question 17: Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially and need to cut back on such commitments?
Question 18: What are my partner's needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way?
Question 19: Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a hall, church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?
Question 20: Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other's choices?
2007-09-25 15:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Shalla V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. It's extremely important to me, because I am married to the person I love most in the world. But if he were to predecease me, I don't know whether I would want to get married again. I just can't imagine it being as good with someone else as it is now with him.
2007-09-25 12:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married so it's not important right now, but if I do get married it will be extremely important and I sure as hell won't risk divorce by marrying anyone in this country.
2007-09-25 12:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋