Parents and teachers are in a perfect position to influence teens positively. What can they do to be as influential as possible? This is a big task. Teens are bombarded by media and peer pressures. Yet, adults can and do make a difference. What can they do to maximize this difference?
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2007-09-25 05:11:04 · 14 answers · asked by Andrew R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Teach them what you know well. If you know about cars, teach them that. If you know about love and relationships, teach them that. Whatever it is that you can teach, teach with consistency, and live true to your values every day. Be willing to be an unmovable rock tempered with great patience.
2007-09-25 05:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by souldoctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question represents the problem. There is no ONE answer to solve troubled teen problems. Each teenager is an individual with individual needs and problems. Sorry to say, parents and teachers, there are some parenting and teaching practices that are always good, and some that are always bad, but you need to know not only the good practices, but you also need to know what's good for YOU, and what's good for each teen in your life. That's not always obvious. The best teachers push themselves and their students and are always consistent with their students, but also learn how to bring out the best in each student. Parenting is similar, except that a parent has the good fortune of only having to do this with their own children--thus they ought to have a little more insight into their childrens' personalities.
I've read some responses here saying things like "parent's need to stop trying to be cool" and whatnot. It's true that being responsible far outweighs being "cool," but trying to relate to the teenagers in your life as much as possible and responding to them in ways that are both positive and enjoyable for them are much better than acting like stern taskmasters wielding the rod of discipline.
No problems will be solved here on YA. Whole books have been written on this subject and yet, look around, still having problems with teenagers. Stop trying to look for simple answers to complicated questions. It's a recipe for failure.
2007-09-25 12:29:04 · answer #2 · answered by average person Violated 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They could get more involved in what hey are into these days. Also they can show that they care by influencing the teens to write in a journal, and allow the teachers to read them. Not allowed but in private like after school. I know i enjoyed journaling.
2007-09-25 12:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by amanda b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Few off the cough ideas are as follows:- For one,we should speak in the language they understand instead of ,say,using queen's English.Learn and try of look at things from their angle than from the the perspective of Good old days.Establish a communication link with them which they trust.Stop treating them as kids or even conventional teenagers.They are a lot more smart than we ever were.Last but not the least,Pray hard for commensurate returns for our efforts.
2007-09-25 12:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teenager I would say if someone connected to us we could better understand where they were coming from. Younger adults are more likely to grab our attention. One time they had a comedian come to our school to talk about drugs. He was so hilarious and made doing drugs look totally stupid. I'm going to try and get his name and I'll put it on here. Another thing that I think could help teens is to bring an adult who had her baby as a teen. I think that would decrease teenage pregnancy. =)
2007-09-25 13:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Shelbi =) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say they need to be honest. All of the people who have influenced have just been straight and told me how things work.
I had a cousin who dropped out of college, he was smart but at the time he couldn't find any work that was truly suited for him. So needing work he took a job at McDonald's as a manager. He talked to my mother got me a job and he constantly told me this is what waiting for you if you don't finish school. I finished school cause he showed me what my options were and he was honest about his life.
2007-09-25 12:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jon C 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no 'one' best way. Making sure that the teen knows that they can come to the adult for anything stands out as one, but every kid is different, and applying one formula isn't the solution.
2007-09-25 12:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
BELEIVE ME TEENS WILL DO WHATEVER THE HECK THEY WANT NOMATTER HOW MANY TIMES OR HOW YOOU TELL THEM. yes talk to them positivly and tell them stories about how someone ended yp by doing this or that. pictures movies that will get their attentjon. dont just explain show them have someone go in class and tell them their story and how its now difficult to live life BC of how they were raised or lived during teen years.
2007-09-25 12:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by TTC #2 Baby Dust MEEE! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
parents have 2 live by example and stop trying 2 b a cool parent and parent their kids
2007-09-25 12:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look if you parents are honest and tell them your mistakes it will help them. If you smoked pot tell them how it affected you, same with sex and ect....
2007-09-25 15:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by (o_o) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋