How important is moral compatibility in a relationship?

Question

Do two people need to see eye-to-eye on what's right versus what's wrong to have a successful relationship?

Edits: Why thank you stonerockit!

And a big purrrrrrr back at you, FTW!!

Thanks for your answer wah hoo. I realize this is the LGBT section; I myself am gay. When I speak of "moral compatibility" I speak of those who abide by the law versus those who believe they can do whatever they want (cheat on taxes, steal, etc.). I personally do not see a disconnect between being gay AND moral. Thanks for your time.

Answer 1

It's pretty darn important for me. I don't expect to agree on everything, but we must have the same basic values for a relationship to work.

Answer 2

That is one of the major deal breakers in relationships. Along with Sex and Money. This goes under spiritual/Religion/Ideology/Political realm "kinda of"

"The couple ripping off the 711 together could be quite content otherwise".

Meat eater and vegan are not going to last 5 minutes in a relationship. So being the same Morally or in other areas in important.

Answer 3

I don't think people need to see eye-to-eye 100% of the time, but they do need to be mature about their differences. Communication is key here. In my psychology class my teacher once told us that the key to a successful relationship was to find someone as much like you as possible! She said that "opposites attract" saying was nice, but didn't usually lead to long term happiness. More compatibility = less conflict. So far, I've found this to be pretty true, actually.

Answer 4

No. If that were the case, what would be the explanation for the long relationship between James Carville and Mary Matalin, (neither of whom will ever be on People's 50 Hottest Celebrities list)?

One of my best friends in another life met his hubby bonding over sports and the fact that my friend knew sign language, while his beau was partially deaf and had even taught classes at Gallaudet University at one time. They went at it like cats and dogs over politics, though: my friend was a stubborn Independent while his hubby was staunchly Republican.

However, what finally broke them up was not their ideological differences: they both worked at the same video store. My friend's husband wound up getting a promotion my friend had busted his @$$ for, and HE was the one that got his other half the job in the first place. That was a deal-breaker.

Answer 5

I think for me, personally, it's very important. I've dated guys with different political and religious views and it seemed like our relationship never really got very deep in those areas.

All of my long term relationships were with guys who had similar beliefs and values. If you truly respect the other person, it's possible to have a fulfilling relationship, though. It all comes down to respect, which is important even if you two do have the same morals and values.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Yeah I think it's a crucial element. Especially if the realtionship is long term and could involve kids. Without the same moral capacity I think raising children would be very difficult. Great question! =)

Answer 8

It certainly helps. if one likes to beat up people and deal with thugs, and the other lives in what the bully calls a "fantasy world" where people don't have to do these things, that could be a sign of moral incompatibility. For instance....

Answer 9

I think it is very important and can be a very important contributing factor to a relationship not working out. Sexual compatibility does not equate everything (unless that is all you are looking for).

Answer 10

I see moral compatability as very important.

Kudos to behrmark for an unusually good question!