Which one is more difficult? To ask for forgiveness or to forgive?

Question

Personally, to ask for forgiveness is really difficult, but to forgive is even harder.... agree or disagree?

Answer 1

Totally agree. To back you up even more, ever forgive someone, or have someone forgive you, only to find either you or the other person can't actually do it? The party WANTS to forgive, but the act just keeps eating at them.

Yes, asking for forgiveness can be tough, but sometimes, no matter how much you want to, actually forgiving the offense (depending on the offense) can be impossible.

Answer 2

Forgive

Answer 3

It all depends if you are just talking of initiating an action of asking or giving forgiveness. Both are easy task to do if you are well versed and open. No fear of talking. But expecting an emotional and psychological outcome if forgiven or want to forgive is another story. If you are offended, it would be easy for you to forgive because the resolution of the matter is in your decision to forgive. If asking for forgiveness, it is difficult because the resolution is in the offended and not with you.

Answer 4

Agree. To forgive someone is even harder. When someone hurt your feelings, it will reamin there as a scar in your heart. Take this for an example: if you hurt someone's feeling, you punched a nail in a wall, then if you ask for forgiveness, you pluck the nail out. But the hole remains the same on the wall...

Answer 5

I have just gone through three years of trying to 'forgive' It has not been easy -it has been a long ,involved and painful process.
Asking in some cases could be just as difficult -because it could involve forgiving oneself first !

Answer 6

To forgive a long standing resentment is more difficult, but can also be the most satisfying. When you have resentment in your heart for someone you let them control your life. When you let go and forgive that control is gone. Try it, you'll like it. Good luck

Answer 7

To ask for forgiveness is harder for me because there is a chance of rejection and loss of face and dignity.

To forgive is better because it makes you humble and makes you feel good.

Answer 8

Well, i'm a guy...and sometimes we see things a bit differantly.. it depends on the thing that happened..sometimes we just "brush it off"..now, the other party might still think that it's a big deal! ,and, still have an issue with it..so, even though we may have forgotten..(doesn't mean were stupid) we probably need "reminded", and "gone over a bit" to recall the events we blew off a time ago...then, we can help the other person with their issue and understand them....lol....other times, we get "burnt" and believe some type of retribution is necessary if the other party doesn't come forward and "buck up to the suds" and make some type of restitution..(in a given time..) this is tough...other times, we get caught with our pants down in front of God and everybody..and still wouldn't say "crap" if we had a mouthfull..leave us alone..and don't "push it!" we usually came around and make it right..but in time...and this is tough too...so, your question is very hard...it depends on what and who it is at the time...and how much "Pride" we have to work on....they are both easy..yet both very hard also....lol.....

Answer 9

Oh, I totally agree. To forgive is much much harder for me, even if it means forgiving myself.

Answer 10

To forgive....

Asking brings a yes or no response. There is so much more involved in the act of forgiveness....the reconciliation of the act and of the emotions that it brought about.