Me and my Husband got married Sept. 5 of this year. I am only 20 years old and I think I married too soon....Is that normal or should I end it?
2007-09-25 02:30:15 · 25 answers · asked by sara_elizabeth17_2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
after 20 days why did you get married for.
yes ok the honeymoons over and its back to some sort of normal time but 20 days.
surly you must have had doubts before you married and if so why did you get married.
i find it very hard to fallout of love in twenty days.
you need to get help somethings not right here.
2007-09-25 02:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have the blues shortly after your wedding. You grow up dreaming of the day; planning it, imagining it and it is all about you but then after it happens what is there? The dream is done and what are you left with? Well cheer up because if you take a look around, you have a brand new life ahead of you and you can make new dreams; far away vacations, a new home; there are so many things you can do but the fun isn't over just because you got married. You just have a built in best friend to share it all with. You don't have to worry about sleeping alone or having horrible things in your life happen and noone to be there because your husband will be there. Just step back and take a few deep breaths, you loved him enough to marry him; talk to him and explain you're feeling a little lost and need his help to cheer up. It will be ok.
2007-09-25 02:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by littleone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you may just be scared. Give it time before you do anything.I was married sept 4th 9 years ago. I always ask my self will it last. I am in iraq, so I can not be with a loved one, be lucky he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
If you still have doubts, make an appt with a marriage counselor soon. Don't be afraid to talk to him either, he has to know what your feeling.
2007-09-25 02:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats pretty bad to be married a month and call it quits. Most young brides get married for the wedding and never think about the actual married life after. I say talk to your husband and maybe get some counseling. Best wishes.
2007-09-25 02:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by Vickey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a bit more time to adjust, it is normal to feel this way. I guess its the big come down after all the excitment of it all. Stay focused on the reasons why you married him. The first few years are the hardest, you have to adjust to fitting your life and dreams around this person, and have to get used to one anothers ideas, habits and thoughts. It is very scary. So dont be hard on yourself, or put yourself under too much pressure.
2007-09-25 02:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay marriage is give and take. You need to try it for a while at least, you haven't had time to really get to know your husband.
And just because you are married it doesn't mean you can't go out and have fun, you just do it together most of the time.
Try going out with him doing the things you did before you got married.
Give it a chance.
2007-09-25 03:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by PokerPlayer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After only a month you are not happy?! How long did you know him before the two of you married? Sounds as though you are too immature to be married.
2007-09-25 02:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you marry young it can be so rocky at times your not yout "adult" self and you have a lot of growing up to do, and no I'm not busting your balls with the growing up stuff I married at 22 and it has been a constant growth process for me. Any way if you love this man really love him then talk to him about the things that are hard for you work them out together. I was lucky my husband was older than me and understood a lot of what i was going through he gave me the space I needed to grow
2007-09-25 02:39:13 · answer #8 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that it's normal or abnormal. You need to talk with your husband one on one and tell him about it. He may feel the same. If you both want the marriage to work, I suggest therapy. It could help a lot, and why end the marriage if there is a chance to iron things out?
2007-09-25 02:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to figure out why you're not happy and what it is inside YOU that will make you happy, it's not your husbands responsilbity to make sure you are happy every day of your life. Obviously you are and were much too young to get married in the first place.
2007-09-25 08:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋