my wifes ex BF asks her about her sexlife, and offers to give her 'girl toys'.. i think she should tell him its completely inappropriate. but she must think its ok, because she never mentioned it to me? I found out by accident. What would you do?
2007-09-25 02:26:57 · 19 answers · asked by michael o 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's completely inappropriate for your wife to be discussing her sex life with her ex boyfriend. Where are her female friends? I would say she needs to lose this ex BF all together. Even if they cool it for awhile (upon your request), it will only be a matter of time before this behavior starts again.
2007-09-25 02:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about it.
This is totally inappropriate. The topic of conversation, and his propositions. For him though to feel entitled to have such intimate conversations with her, he must have felt comfortable enough and that's what you should talk to her about.
Fair enougth, she's not your property and when you can't tell her what to talk about with her friends and how to behave, you would expect that as a wife who freely chose you, she'd know the boudaries which come with a married status.
How would she like it if the shoe was on the other foot?
By having such a conversation with her ex-husband, she's allowing him to disrespect YOU and she herself shows no respect for you and for herself for that matter.
You should ask her if she is contemplating the idea of going back with her ex-husband as this is the only reason why she could be discussing your sex life with him!
Good luck.x
2007-09-25 09:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she did not mention it to you does not mean she is ok with it. Her ex boyfriend is obviously a jerk and is trying to test his sex hold on her to see if he has a chance. He is her ex for a reason. If this bothers you so much then just ask her what her reaction to this request was. His offer of sex toys is his egotistical way of saying "since you are not satisfied with your sex life maybe these sex toys can help". It was his way of insulting her relationship with you.
2007-09-25 09:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's gay then don't sweat it but if not then you have every right to feel bothered by it and you should tell her. Just say " I don't want to fight about it but I want you to know that it does bother me that you discuss our personal life with others and in my opinion I think that our love life is special and should be something we share with eachother not other people." That way she at least knows that it bothers you and you don't come of like a jealous boyfriend and make her made and push away.
2007-09-25 09:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by ktychaos13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So but so inappropriate! Confront her to me thats disrespectful on both parts . . . Its her ex she shouldn't be telling him nothing and he shouldn't be offering nothing . . . You never know he may want to use those toys with her!!!
2007-09-25 09:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by KiRACASNiAGA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd be offended by this. He is treading into 'sacred territory'. She should have stopped it immediately. Would she like it if your old girlfriend and you acted in the same manner? Don't think so. Tell her how you feel and see if she respects you enough to put a stop to it.
2007-09-25 09:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are they talking? How does the subject of her sex life come up? You should check and make sure you are making her happy in the bedroom. Then I'd call him and tell him she has all she needs and doesn't need his help or advice.
2007-09-25 09:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be really pissed. that is VERY innappropriate. And the fact that she didn't tell you would also piss me off. sounds like she hiding something. Maybe she still has attraction to him. If she didn't think she was doing anything wrong, she wouldn't have hidden it from you. She knows she's wrong.. It doesn't mean she is cheating, but the behavior is suspect.
2007-09-25 09:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by writenimage 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is too ashamed to tell you, or she doesn't want to upset you...why is she still talking to him? Confront her and tell her how uncomfortable it makes you feel that she discusses her sex life with her ex...ask her how she would feel if the shoe was on the other foot
2007-09-25 09:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely disrespectful to your marriage so I would definitely say something. Tell him to mind his own business while your at it.
2007-09-25 10:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by Miriam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋