parents responsibility's please help !!!?

Question

i split with my ex 12 months ago, she stopped me from seeing our daughter for 3 months i took her to court and she gave me everything i asked for even said in open court i was a good dad and our daughter loved me our daughter is 3 years old ,after about 3 months she broke court order and again stopped me from contact with our daughter over some arrgument we had where i couldnt pick her up when court order said i would be 2 hours later so again didnt see our daughter for two months. i instructed my soliciter to go back to court i paid up front £500 soon as she new it was back to court access was given back to me i still wont to go back to court becose i dont have perents responsibiltys my name is not on birth certiffecate and my ex wont sign anything to give me them iv always paid my maintenance and i have over night care but my ex says she carnt trust me . can she stop me from having parents responsibilitys? also i wont to put my name on birt certiffecate can she stop that

Answer 1

Your high priced solicitor should be advising you on all these aspects!

Answer 2

i agree that you should have a paternity test to make sure you are the father although you appear to be the father in your heart; as well as the courts recognizing you as the father as you pay maintanence for your daughter. i would go for joint custody as the so called "mother" [having a child doesn't necessarily make you a mother or father] doesn't seem stable. i detest women and men who use children as a pawn for their own needs, having a child is a privilege not a right or entitlement.

Your soliticiter or lawyer should be informing you of what needs to be done. If there are children's services in the area that you live i would contact them as well. The courts establish the guidelines not your ex. She can be held in contempt. i would also ask the courts to have your name placed on the birth certificate for confirmation and clarification of your being the father, if that if what you want. If your ex doesn't want your name on the birth certificate, is it due to not knowing who the father is, being angry and hurt or are there details that have been left out?

How could they make the decision without your name on the bc in the first place? i am guessing you are from the UK so the laws may differ there.

Answer 3

She is in contempt of court by not allowing you to see your daughter. When you take her back to court you'll file some kind of a petition. In that petition it usually has a place for you to list what your ex has done wrong, why it was wrong (because your previous order said to do it and she's not) and what you would like in return.
In the part where you get to talk about what you would like in return (here in the states it usually begins "The petitioner prays for") state that you request full or joint custody of your daughter and that your name be added to her birth certificate.
She can't legally stop you from having parents responsibilities.

Answer 4

you need to get a paternity test done then you can go to court to have your name put on your daughters birth certificate my cousin did this and there is nothing your ex can do if a court orders it. well done for not giving up on your daughter most men wouldn't have bothered, go and see your solicitor, they will be able to advice you on the best course of action, never give up the fight to establish your role in your daughters life, your daughter will appreciate how much her daddy was prepared to fight for her and realise how much she is loved, hope it all works out for you dads like you don't deserve to be given the run around, keep up the good fight, best of luck to you. you are doing a great job pity there are not more dads like you out there.

Answer 5

What a great mother! Using her child to hurt the father. I cannot stand women like this! No matter how the woman feels about the father, that child needs her father! Sounds like this woman needs to grow up and think of your child's welfare not her own! She cannot take away your parental rights. Put your name on the birth certificate. Get a blood test to be sure the child is yours. Once that happens she can't do crap to you. You have the same rights as the mother does. In fact, you can also file for joint custody. Go for it. Show your child you are in this for life and want to be. Your ex will end up hanging herself with this type of behavior. The child will grow up seeing this and turn on the mother. I have seen it a lot.

Answer 6

She cannot, under current UK law, stop you from applying to the court through an order of parental responsibility.

For the specific court in which to file such a petition go here:
http://www.hmcourts-service.gov.uk/HMCSCourtFinder/

Answer 7

DNA can prove your paternity. If you won' put your name on your child's birth certificate then you aren't much of a parent now are you? Are you hold out because of the mom. Stop playing games and step up to th plate. Why on earth would you not put your name on your child's birth certificate. Who is this really about you or the child?

Maybe due to misspelling I misread your question. Please clarify do you or don't you want your name on the BC> She can't stop that. Its another legal issue but she can't prevent it.

Answer 8

This is a prime example of why people should be married prior to bringing an innocent child into it. Your name should have been on the birth certificate from the day she was born. Why wasn't it? hope you have big $$$ you are going to need it

Answer 9

Talk to your lawyer, they can answer all of these question. Obviously the court recognizes you as the father or you wouldn't be paying child support.

Answer 10

Get a DNA test, then she has nothing to say.
After that, you can have the police or child services go with you to her house at your scheduled visit times. They can FORCE her to allow you visitation.
Don't give up - keep fighting, your daughter deserves you in her life.

Answer 11

Praternity test is the next step and that should fix it, it won't fix your ex but the laws where iam at would put her in contempt if she didn't abide by them !