But I just want to run back to our world before I left and leave all this sick/nausea feeling behind. I know leaving was the best for all concerned but it doesnt feel like it at the moment, Is this feeling normal???
2007-09-25 01:59:20 · 22 answers · asked by Me xx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Totally. Its completely normal to have moments (days) of doubt when any relationship breaks up, even if you are the one who instigated the split. Try to resist the urge to contact him when you feel this way, because it WILL pass. Tell yourself if you still feel the same in a week then you will contact him. Then gather round your closest, most supportive friends and talk to them about how you feel.
2007-09-25 02:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is....it takes at least two years to get over a marriage/divorce. I have been there...Don't go back, find a way to enjoy your life...become a work alcoholic. Get involved with something to have the time pass by. Find old friends, spend more time with family. Go on a vacation by yourself or with a friend. But go and find what you've been missing. Because sister there is a lot out there...i left a very very very unhealthy marriage over 5 years ago and i couldn't be more happier. It was stressful but now it's been a while and i know i made the right decission.
2007-09-25 09:05:17 · answer #2 · answered by christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a life changing decison of course your worreid it was the right one.
Your on ya one again which takes time to adjust too. Enjoy teh new freedom and slowly introduce yourself back into the world as a single women again.
Like you said you know leaving was the best for all concerned... you did the right thing, no one has to stay in a relationship thats not happy.
2007-09-25 09:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by I Think I'm Growing Up! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal; however, if it continues or is overwhelming, perhaps you should see a therapist. I know it might be hard to think about this now, but the choice you have made is for a better, healthier future for you. Deep down inside, you will find the strength to move on and meet all the life goals you have set for yourself. Just give it some time. But if you can get in to a counselor, give that a try so you have some sort of support. Also try to identify key people who you know you can trust and will support you - slowly, start identifying your support network (family, friends, clergy, etc). They come in handy, trust me on that one!
Best of luck to you!
2007-09-25 09:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you want to go back because it is familiar and you know the routine there. Change is hard because it is full of the unknown. I know when I seperated from my last husband that I was really out of sorts, couldn't think, sleep, eat, concentrate....time won out. The change became the new, my life became a great adventure and I learned to enjoy the new life that I was creating for myself. There are so many great options for us in this life, I am glad I didn't settle for the crazy marriage that I had. I am really happy now.
2007-09-25 09:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i think it's very normal to feel as you do.
We can love someone, but that doesn't mean they are "good for us".
You are doing what is best for you. If your husband doesn't know how to treat you, and if you two don't get along, it's a recipe for misery.
You are taking care of YOU in this instance, and it's going to take time to adjust.
Sending hugs.
2007-09-25 09:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely normal to second guess decisions. You have to remember the reasons you left to begin with because chances are if you did go back,the same issues would still be there.
2007-09-25 09:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether your marriage was good or bad, its still going to feel very strange when you leave, at first anyway. This feeling will pass very quickly as you become accustomed to being away from him. Give it a bit of time hunny. Good luck!
2007-09-25 09:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Girl!!!Yes it is very normal to want to run back.But don't.More people need to get headstrong and get out of thier bad relationships.Stay strong.He'll beg and plead for you to come back if he hasn't already,but set your mind on as to why you left to begin with.Words are cheap and they like to do alot of talking which messes with your mind.Don't let words blind you.
2007-09-25 09:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is, but I'm wondering if you sought counseling before leaving. If not, your relationship might have been able to be saved- and that could be what's causing your feelings right now.
2007-09-25 09:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋