2007-09-25 01:55:01 · 12 answers · asked by Blessings 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
death is very difficult to deal with,.....i lost my wife after 24 years of marriage,.....it has been just over three and a half years since she died,.....for many many months, i was a walking zombie, things do get better after time,.....but if you are anything like me, you will never look at life the same as you did when he was alive,.....
2007-09-25 02:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss, and i'm sure this has been the most difficult time of your life.
I found a couple of websites about grief. There are many out there on the internet. You can do a Yahoo search for COPING WITH GRIEF, LIFE AFTER DEATH OF A SPOUSE, GRIEF SUPPORT, GRIEF FORUMS for a few.
Hon, have you seen your doctor? Sometimes a doc can be of help... with anti-depressants or even a referral to a grief counselor...
There are many resources out there for help. I think that, right now, you need the support of family, friends. If you go to church, maybe there are people there who would listen?
Some communities also have Grief Support Groups.... you could look into that... and you would find yourself among people with similar problems to share your feelings with.
I sure hope you get the help and support you deserve to get through this sad time. And it is going to take time to start feeling better.
Each of us handles grief in our own way. And there is no time limit set for the grieving process.
Sending love your way....
2007-09-25 02:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't going to forget someone that was a huge part of your life. You should look into grief counseling, a good counselor can give you tools to deal with the the pain and help you to move past the survivors guilt. Speak with your doctor, he can suggest a counselor and may encourage you to take anti-depressants for a short time until you are able to cope.
2007-09-25 02:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my first husband when we were 25. I am in my forty's now and I can tell you that it takes time. There is a whole grieving process that you have to go through, you lost your partner, best friend and love. I found that even though my husband died, he didn't go far, I felt him around me every day. It took me almost 20 years to realize that I could have a life, that I was allowed to feel like I was entitled to happiness and that it was OK to fall in love again. I wish that I had gone to grief therapy sooner, as there are many answers that this gives that are hard to discover alone. I feel for you, take care of yourself and know that there is a world full of good things waiting for you when you are ready to pursue them.
2007-09-25 02:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
first off, i am truelly sorry for your loss. but you will never forget him. you loved him and he was your husband. no one should expect you to forget him and if they do then they are wrong in expecting that. you may can try to keep a journal of your thought. also, my aunt has found that "writing letters" to her husband helps. she will write what she wishes she could tell her late husband and she keeps all the letters in a safe place. maybe try taking up a hobby of some kind. if none of this helps then you may have to go and talk to someone. sometimes it really helps to have someone who will listen.
2007-09-25 02:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest three things. First, if you're not already very busy with things, get involved in something you enjoy that will consume your time and allow you to meet people. Second, they have groups (at least in major cities) for widowed people. You might look into that. Finally, if your grief becomes overwhelming, please seek counseling. I'm very sorry for your loss - good luck.
2007-09-25 01:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to a psychologist. You need to learn how to move on without forgetting him. A lot of people need grief counseling, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Seek help asap.
2007-09-25 01:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by leaptad 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was going to contact you offline but your account is set to no mail.
I lost my lady to a car wreck; the one I had waited for my whole adult life. We had agreed to wait a year before making it official (getting married). She was gone a week later, on Thanksgiving Day, 04.
Our experiences are similar. Contact me.
2007-09-25 02:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
try going more with friends out
spend some time occupied with things that u like
you must move on but not just to forget him cherish memory on him and keep him in part of your heart
ask your self would he want you to be Happy and move on?
2007-09-25 02:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by mikizemun_1975 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss but you have to move on you loved him as much as you could while he was alive right? I'm sure he knows that... I know it will be hard but live your life as an example of him and for him
2007-09-25 01:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋