am i classed as an unsuitable teen mum?

Question

i oftern wonder if people look at me and judge me for my bump and how old i look. well i am 19 years old and have been with my partner now for 5 years. we have lived together now for 2 years. we have a decent income coming in and nether of us claim. would you class me as just anouther teen mum or just mum x x x

Answer 1

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I would not judge you because of your age. You and your partner seem to have a good relationship and attitude. It is hard being a parent and most people choose to wait that doesn`t mean that everyone should.

Have confidence in your ability as a parent and do not worry about peoples views.

Good luck and have a great life.

Answer 2

You know what most people who saw you walking around would probably judge you. Let's be honest, you see a young pregnant person and you think they are stupid and there is no way they could be earning enough money, and you assume that their relationship is going to fail and that they are living in a fantasy land thinking the baby is going to be great AND everyone assumes the pregnancy was unplanned. Don't get me wrong I think it is terrible the way young mothers are judged, I am a young mum myself, my daughter is almost 2 and I am 22, I have been through the stares and people assuming that I am single and that my jewellery is fake because we have no money, but the truth is I am fine, I am married, we do well money wise and I am so happy to have our little family, I wouldn't have it any other way, our baby was unplanned but we had been together a few years beforehand so we were able to deal with the situation, although it isn't ideal (husband in final year uni (college) now) we have made it work and we are proud of that. In the end all that matters is how you see yourself and that your family and friends dont treat you any lesser. Don't worry about nosey strangers formulating their opinions about you because they are basing it purely on your age and know nothing about you as a person : )

Answer 3

Sounds like your mum xxx. Not a lot of info to go by though. Being a teen parent is frowned on by society that's why you get looks. Most teens are not stable nor responsible enough to raise a child and start a family. Sounds like your doing ok though. Just don't let up and remember that our kids will model themselves after you.
Just don't promote teen pregnancy as many teens are not ready for that commitment. Hell a lot adults aren't ready for it. That goes to others who post answers as well.

Answer 4

dont listen to anyone elses opinion only yours and partners count people who slat others usually have issues themselves and do that to eliviate thereown borin lives.ive been ther had one child at 18 another at 19and a half.then found out preg again at 24 then again 29 id not planed them they hapened now wouldnt be wivout forthe world got 2 of each if partner ad his way woulave ad 7 but pregnancy has done things to my body youd never beleive.now daughter 21 in jan daughter 19 lastmonth sons 15 nxt month and 10 in feb and yeah did somethin now no more kids,girls left home.wouldnt change it jus advice u do whats best for you and your family

Answer 5

im 20 an have the same worry but to be honest i couldnt care i have loads of ppl tell me what a good age it is to have a baby i know sum have said but what about your younger years! my bf mum was 18 when she had him and is having the time of her life now says its the best. i wouldnt consider 19 to be teen mum are you gonna be 20 when you give birth ?

Answer 6

With what information you've given, I'd say you're a regular mom. Now, said to say, if you do things like leave your child with random people, leave your kids to go out partying( or even party with them in the house), not cook or clean for them...then yeah, I'd say another teen mom. It's a terrible stereotype, but sometimes it's true.

Answer 7

My mom was 19 almost 20 when she had me (27 years ago).
It sounds like you are being responsible and taking care of yourself. Don't worry about other people worry about your family.
Good luck to you.

Answer 8

My mom was 18 and married when she had me. I turned out better than the vast majority of the population.

Age has nothing to do with parenting ability. My great gramma had the first of her 11 children when she was 15, they all turned out excellent.

Its about maturity and commitment to living outside yourself and for the explicit purpose of your child. Anyone can make that choice at any age.

Answer 9

I wouldn't refer to a 19-year-old as a "teen mum". You're an adult, not a minor child. And you're independent.

So don't worry what people may think of you.

Answer 10

Dont allow people to make you feel like you are anything other than a family. They can only classify you if you let them. find peace and happiness in your partner and let the rest roll off your back.