I have this really intelligent friend, academically, who annoys me much. She doesn't do it intentionally, but she's so arrogant and sometimes I get so irritated by the way she says "smart" things, and how she finds it her moral obligation to correct everything she hears and sees!!!
She is my friend, a rather close one, and I don't want to offend her or anything by being honest to her face that she's just so ANNOYING.
I tell my other friends about it, and I feel sort of guilty that I'm "backstabbing" her.
Is it really backstabbing? What should I do?
If I do confront her there is a risk that our friendship might not be the same again. I don't want to tell her about it because I don't wanna lose her as a friend.
2007-09-25 00:14:47 · 5 answers · asked by 11 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
O.K technically speaking because you are speaking of her behind her back you are backstabbing. I suggest that you have a conversation with this friend of yours and just be open and honest about our feelings and thoughts, try and include some positive comments throughout your conversation as this may help her to feel a little more at ease with what you are saying and that it isn't an out and out ambush session. Finally if this person becomes aggravated by the things you have said to her then perhaps you should consider that somebody like that is not a true friend. You should not fear that your friendship will break down over this I mean after all isn't a true friendship about give and take from both sides......................All the best and please bear in mind there are an awful lot of decent lot people out there and sometimes certain things do happen for a reason even if you can't see it at the time.....................................
2007-09-25 00:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Backstabbing is saying something about someone that you would not say to their face. If the friendship isn't strong enough to be honest maybe its not worth the effort. I apologize for sounding cold.
Don't worry about the relationship not being the same because the way it is isn't working for you(apparently)
2007-09-25 07:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by temerson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you could think of the reason you want her as a friend and say positive things about her to balance things out. I don't think what you're saying is so serious that it would be considered backstabbing, but you should definitely put out positives about her too when talking to people or if you confront her directly.
2007-09-25 07:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by the Boss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you cannot speaking something straight to a person but speak to others, it is back stabbing. there cannot be anything but free and frank exchanges between friends. if u donot like something about your friend better tell him direct without fearing that he will be annoyed. if you have any such hesitation, it only shows that some thing is lacking in your friendship.
2007-09-25 07:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is such a friend you would accept it then and keep her at a distance -it is not her that you dislike it is the annoying ways and stop backing her - be busy a lot of times
2007-09-25 07:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋