in march my partner and i went through a very rough patch he lost his sister we separeted and he went wiv this other gal for a while (because she was just there apparently) we now are slowly makeing up we got two children and been together for five yrs do i try again witrh him or not?
2007-09-24 23:58:58 · 20 answers · asked by welshgal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to try it again then try it again. But if you already know deep down that you don't want to try and work it out then don't. Don't do it for the kids. The decision is yours to make, and his too. But you can't do it for him, you have to make this decision for yourself. You deserve to be happy but guilt doesn't carry happiness with it.
xxx
2007-09-25 00:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Shel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him give a chance for yours and your children's sake. Five years of marriage is a lot to throw away. It's great that your slowly making up - i think that's the best thing you can do under the circumstances. It sounds like you do still love him otherwise you probably wouldn't even think about getting back together. Losing his sister probably affected him more than you may have thought at the time. People grieve in different ways and now that some time has passed he himself may want to try again. Only you will know if he is being sincere. Sit down and talk to him if you have any fears of his going off with someone else. Just because he did that in the past albeit a time when he was emotionally down,does not mean that he'd do it again. Good luck to you.
2007-09-25 00:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back with him just for the sake of your children because if he does it again you children will be more confused than ever.
I made that mistake and had my ex back 3 times for the sake of the kids but each time he went and cheated again, the last thing he was thinking of was the children.
If he's been gone a while your children will be used to him by now not being around all the time, don't mix their heads up any more by having him back so he can leave again.
You deserve better, you should have been the first person he turned to after he lost his sister there is obviously something missing if he went off with someone else to deal with his grief.
Good Luck xx
2007-09-25 00:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pitstop!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a matter of whether you want him anymore or not. dont think about having children with him, at the end of the day children are very resiliant and will cope perfectly well if you do split up. you have to consider your happiness, whether you were happier when you were with him or when you were without. what you really need to think about is why you separated when his sister died when he no doubt needed someone the most, which is most probably why he went with the other gal. i'm not placing blame or anythin i know it can be difficult when a partner loses someone, my boyfriend lost his father recently and took alot of his grief and anger out on me, but at the end of the day i knew eventually we would get back to some form of normality and we'd be fine.
You need to think about what you want and whether you can deal with the fact that he was with someone else. but on the plus side at least he was honest enough to tell you that.
2007-09-25 00:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by dom c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you can re-make what you had without having loads of arguments infront of the children? If you can then do it so they can have a happy family, but if you're going to argue 24/7 then don't bother, you need to trust each other and have fun and take care of the kids and let them have a family they deserve, don't let them see you argue because they will end up disliking either of you because they don't have both parents and they have to choose between you at holidays, weekends etc.
2007-09-25 00:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by ColeyMo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come he didnt turn to you for support when he lost his sister? How come he'd rather go to some bird who's "just there"? How exactly was she "just there" at just the right time? Where did he know her from etc? How did they get that close without you knowing about it?
If he's going to run off when anything bad happens and use it as a sick excuse to cheat you're better off without him.
2007-09-25 00:03:04 · answer #6 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes if u think he loves u and wants u back u should
because it will not only b good for u but your two children too .and if u both have any problem talk to each other and sort it out
2007-09-25 00:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by coolgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, think of the children.
Take it slowly, if it feels right then let it happen.
If not, don't go with it, it's better to try to keep an amicable relationship for the future.
2007-09-25 00:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by Fu B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a shot for the children's sake, if he was good to you prior to his sister passing away. He may have just been overcome with grief.
2007-09-25 00:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your feeling toward him? Is he a good partner and father? If your answers are yes to above, the answer is obvious.
2007-09-25 00:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by hsm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋