Am soon going to get divorced and to take my mind off it i have joined a hobby class where this married girl of my same age (late 20s) also comes. Last week she asked me to drop her somewhere and i did (i give lift to many people in my class), while getting off from my car she asked me to come to her place sometime for coffee and i told her i will. Everything seems fine till here.
The problem is i often find her taunting or laughing at me, staring at me then looking away etc in the class that makes me feel uncomfortable. Now she has asked me 3 times before on similar occasions to come to her house for coffee (i guess in her husband's presence).
Now, should i accept her invitation to seem polite or just ignore it? At the same time was she just being polite to me for dropping her or am i reading too much?
2007-09-24 23:46:48 · 13 answers · asked by protege 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ofcourse my intentions are honourable and i would prefer to visit their home only when her husband extends the invitation (well am also keen in making new decent friends). I specifically want to know would i sound impolite if i don't turn up her invitation into a friendly rendez-vous because in my mind i read many things?
2007-09-25 00:19:01 · update #1
I think you are very wise. Why don't you invite both her and her husband out to dinner instead? That way you get to know both of them and you aren't going to her house, possibly walking into a snare. Then you will have made friends with both her and the husband and maybe he will extend the invitation to have you over to their home.
2007-09-25 01:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by meagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should, b/c her intentions may not be the same as yours. Also under God's eyes your still married until you're actually divorced. However I think you should stay away from this married woman, just tell her you don't think that would be a wise decision. Not just for you but in respecting her husband and her marriage (which she might not even respect). It all starts with just having coffee, then before you know it you've allowed yourself to get into a situation that you wish you wouldn't have gotten in to. I hope you make the right choice. You have enough stuff going on in your life, don't add to it.
2016-05-18 00:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because I am older and more bitter, but I would just ask her what her intentions are. But before you do that, you should ask YOURSELF whether you want to. You are getting divorced and that is a tough situation to be in while trying to start a new relationship. Is she in the same situation? If so, she would understand waiting until you are both divorced. I would also NOT do this at her house unless the intentions are honorable and the invitation is being extended by the husband as well. Would hate for you to get shot by a jealous husband.
This is just my opinion and I could be wrong.
2007-09-25 00:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by BOB 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty I think you might need to find yourself a different hobby class now and for future reference don't drop woman home until you are ready to go out there and date....or to make female friends that have no hang ups or husbands....keep yourself and your emotions safe for now as you are very vulnerable and by the sound of it not ready yet....best of luck coming thru your divorce and getting into your future....have fun out there....
2007-09-24 23:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
She is married and you have to respect that, so if she is making advances towards you, then I would hope that you would be 'man' enough to ignore them.
On the other hand , if its all above board, and her husband has extended the coffee invitation as well.....then theres no reason why your shouldn't go and make new friends.
2007-09-24 23:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
don't go...sounds like trouble to me... stay away, you have enough problems right now w/ a divorce... =) good luck... and tell her no thanks... be firm... don't give in... as a matter of fact, I would not drop her off anymore either... her husband will get pissed eventually... even though you told her you would come for coffee sometime, back down from the offer... tell her your girlfriend won't like the idea... even if you don't have one, lol! =)
2007-09-24 23:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is married, stay away!!! If she is single, invite her to coffee with you, at a cafe, for now.
2007-09-24 23:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt bother,she's not laughing at you its a way women flirt thn looking away women do it all the time only if your single though,
she's married not a good sign,leave it alone i would say
2007-09-24 23:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by charlie baby 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think she's laughing at you?Do you think she's being sneaky? Follow your instincts on this one. I probably wouldn't choose to have the coffee with her though.
2007-09-24 23:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by lou_lou 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why don't you counteroffer a cup of cofee that is at a local dinner , denneys, stake / shake / starbucks. that kind of thing.i would not want to be around the x ex husband.
2007-09-24 23:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mildred S 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋