We talked off and on for 3 years.. and I got a letter from Iraq, saying that this couldnt possibly work out.. I really just dont know where to go from here..
Please.. only answer if you're sensible and serious..
Thank you..
Brittany
2007-09-24 23:39:28 · 20 answers · asked by Brittany C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time is the best healer. I know it sucks but just keep reminding yourself you won't feel like this forever, and you won't. It'll take a lot of time and a lot of tears, but you'll get through this. I promise
xxx
2007-10-02 17:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Shel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts. And it will take time before the pain subsides. But later, when you're able to accept that it's over, remember these things:
A relationship needs both people to put in equally. If he won't, then it cannot possibly be "the one."
There are so many guys out there, like stars in the sky. You WILL find someone else wonderful.
Being single is NOT a bad thing. Make the most of it and get to know yourself better. For example, what you learned from the relationship and what you will appreciate and look for in your next.
Get out and DO things. Don't sit at home, alone. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Eat right, put your emotional energy into something productive for yourself, like exercise (when you get upset, go run as hard as you can, for example) or journal or spend time on friendships/family relationships.
Some people are in our lives for just a short time, either to teach us something or for us to help them, and then they are just gone. You will be fine.
2007-09-25 06:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by Elisa-chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brittany, Im sorry to hear this. The best way to get over a broken heart is to distract yourself. Find things to amuse yourself, movies usually help. Dont have self pity. Spend lots of time with your close friends and family. Also, if it is really affective, then maybe you should not be in the area that reminds you of him.
Sorry.
2007-09-25 06:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time and friendship is the best cure.
Jumping into another relationship is NOT a good idea. You're on "the rebound" and your emotional state is not normal. Also, it wouldn't be fair to someone else who you jumped on since they might grow feelings for you and the relationship is not very likely to succeed for long. Plus you would be bringing all the negative baggage from the other relationship into it (like constantly crying about your ex). It will take it's toll.
2007-09-25 06:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by David W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on is the only way. They say time heals everything and its true to a point. I also think love heals too. Don't be afraid to try again. Someone is waiting for you but you will never find them if you don't put yourself out there. Everyone crashes and burns. Pick yourself up and when the right one comes along you'll know it.
2007-10-03 00:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off im really sorry,Second Its so cliche but its gonna take time to heal it.If there was some magical way of getting over heartbreaks then nobody would be tough,So this will only better you on your path of becoming a stronger person.Good luck I hope it all works out well!
2007-09-25 06:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different people have different ways to deal with a break up. So I'd like to suggest how I did with mine. I tried my hardest not to think about him by preoccupying myself. I watched movies after movies after movies, even when my friends couldn't go with me anymore. I avoided anything and everything I could associate with him. I busied myself with work, shifted my concerns to my friends and their lives, and found a new hobby. And if he persistently enters my thoughts, I try to think about the bad things he has done in order to anger myself and turn me off. Basically, it's all about preoccupation and mind set.
Sure it's easy for me to say. It worked for me and I hope it would for you too but I guarantee you that it wouldn't be easy. There sure is no best way coz it would still hurt but everything will be okay. Don't be too hard on yourself coz letting go is a process.
P.S. And oh, before I forget, don't listen to any love songs.
2007-10-03 05:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Xandra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not easy to get read of a broken heart… but there a lot of ways to heal it. But first, ask your self…
who is he who hurt me like this… is he the only guy on this planet….. then if you can answer that… you have the best way to get over your broken heart…. But don’t forget who you are… because sometime person little bit confuse of what I’m saying. Don’t be liberated and don’t lose your self. Be what you are and be true to your self.
2007-09-25 07:33:44 · answer #8 · answered by MyDimple11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i know is this: have a long vacation find some place quiet. And wen you're done go out invite some friends,watch some movies,bar hoping,don't rush into another relationship take slow and when you do it only means that you are already heal completely.
2007-09-25 06:50:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lynanna l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, express to many people who broke your heart. That will help you to learn from your mistakes and consistently take you to a better path of happiness, as well as finding someone who is way better than him. But be careful. There could be other men, like your ex, who can linger.
2007-09-25 06:50:50 · answer #10 · answered by jerome h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋