My soon to be husband is going to joins the army. Well we have a 16 month old son but were not married yet. My question is about the BAH . Now if we do NOT get MARRIED before he sighns his life away does are son get that? Or is it half of that? Also I was reading that it said they pay were his dependents are located while he is in bootcamp is this true? Now when we do get married and I dont want to move with him if he gets put over in Germany do we still get that BAH? Please explain to me how this works. Also if anyone that has been in the Army give me some more information on anything. Thanks so much.
2007-09-24 23:27:51 · 7 answers · asked by star840306 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
If not married, he will have to pay child support. If married and you decided to stay where you are at with baby, he will get BAH where you are staying at. Yes this is true about bootcamp but only if you two are married before basic. There is so much to do on a military installation especially with kids. You need to think long a hard about seperating yourself from him. It would be a good idea to get together and enjoy the travels that the Army will provide both of you.
Good Luck!
SSG Schramm
US Army 15 years
OIF 2003
US Army Recruiter 2.5 years
2007-09-25 00:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As others have said if you aren't married you will not receive anything except what you're boyfriend sends you - and unless you care to go through a paternity test and court he will not be ordered to. If he's a good man he will though of course.
Once you are married he can THEN change his status to married with dependants and will start getting paid for that (not necessarily right after he signs up it sometimes takes a while).
BAH will be based on his duty station - so long as he and his dependants are not living in on post housing you receive BAH. THat includes if he's living in bachelor quarters and you're in the States - he will have to give up at least partial on most posts. You can find rates out through the recruiter or ArmyTimes.com.
Point --- if you love him enough to have a son together then get married NOW as it will streamline the whole process and then GO WITH HIM wherever he's stationed. This will be your new family! By the by Germany is awesome and nothing to be afraid of (you also make more money - BAH and COLA(Cost of living allowance)! If however, you don't love him enough to support him, follow him and stand by him then don't marry him - but be prepared to go to court for child support. Oh and the whole attitude about signs his life away is only partly right -- he's still yours and your still his but it's not just his life it's a lifestyle for ALL of you.
Best wishes.
2007-09-25 03:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by ArmyWifey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married, you will not be eligable for any thing...medical services, access to base facilities, being moved with your boyfriend...anything. Your child will be considered a military dependent and will get medical care and be entitled to child support, which would include a share of BAH. I think one thing you do need to consider is that is you are unmarried, it is highly unlikely that they will let him move off base, even if he does have a child. Technically, he is still considered single and single military members live in dorms until about their third or fourth year of service.
As for BAH after marriage...if he gets orders that could include you and you decide not to accompany him, he will get BAH ONLY if he is given permission to live off base. Since he would not have family accompaning him, it is more likely he would be kept in dorms and as you could have come with and voluntarily chose not to, that means he would not be eligable for any BAH. All military allowances, even if being paid at the dependent rate, are for the housing and sustenence of the military member. If he is unaccompanied and has to live in the dorms, there will be no housing allowance. If he lives off base, the rate is determined by where HE is (after tech school) and believe me, he will need it to pay his rent and bills. No military member makes enough BAH to support the cost of two seperate households off it. The only time this would change is if he is deployed or given a remote tour (18 months on a base that does not allow families to accompany...Korea is the one you hear about the most).
In all honesty, most military families find they can not afford to stay behind. Unless you would be able to live with family or have a job that could pay your bills while he was stationed overseas, it isn't feasable. Add in the stress the seperation would cause and it is often more than most marraiges can take. If you have doubts about being willing or able to move as needed with your military spouse, you need to think about how this relationship will fair once he is active duty. My guess is part of the reason he is "signing his life away" is to ensure a life for you and the child you have together. He is willing to sacrifice to ensure his family has a place to live, food to eat and good medical care..how much are you willing to sacrifice to be with him? A hard question I know, but one that military wives have to ask themselves.
2007-09-25 01:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you need help money wise get married before he joins other wise you are raising the baby with no help from the army just lil from what he will give you which will be hardly any he will get money for dependants which will be u and ur baby as well as medical and dental for a low cost if he move to germany he will do a 2 year tour without you and he will still get the money if you go he get s 3 year tour but once your married and all the paperwork is done with the army he will get money and can get low cost medical and dental for you and your child no matter if you are together in germany or not
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2016-10-09 19:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One: if you are NOT married when he enlists, he will be considered a single parent.. and INELIGIBLE to enlist.
Two: if, for whatever reasons, he can get in anyway, you will get nothing until you are married. the only way the father will get BAH w/Diff is is he is court ordered to pay child support and said child support is equal to or higher than the amount of BAH/Diff. .
BAH for qualified Servicemembers is based on the zip code of the family during Basic, Schools and all Unaccompanied orders. it is based on Duty station location at all other times.
IF you choose not to follow him to any Accompanied duty stations, you do not qualify for Family Separation, and in the case of OCONUS orders, would have to get permission to continue receiving BAH for your location. you may also be required to maintain two households, as in many cases, Married SM are not allowed to live in the barracks for free if they have accompanied orders.
Your place is with you spouse, plain and simple. if you refuse to move with him to wherever he is based, you are not being fair to the marriage nor are you giving it a decent chance of surviving. Military life is tough enough with the FORCED separations like one year Remotes to Korea and 15 month deployments. why on earth would you choose to voluntarily be separated longer?
2007-09-25 01:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
"WE" don't get anything unless you are married. Your son will enable your boyfriend to get quarters on base or off base whether junior is with him or not. Your son will also be covered under dependent care for medical and such things. You will be entitled to nothing unless you are married.
2007-09-24 23:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by macaroni 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋