my boyfriend was going to thailand with his friends family for a hoilday l asked him if l could go and he said he`d love me to go with him.but his friend booked up the tickets and he said there wasnt enough tickets for me to come. l was upset by this.and the next day my boyfriend booked up an extra ticket for me. But then he seemed down saying that l dont trust him,to go by him self. but l do trust him,how can l proof this to him. l wanted to go to thailand cause l thought it would be a once in a lifetime chance,and l wanted to share it with him.
so why does he think l dont trust him,when he said that he`d love me to come?
2007-09-24 23:15:19 · 10 answers · asked by hunnybunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, well I wouldn't count the "I'd love you to go" with too much weight. He could have felt at the time that it was the only answer.
And maybe since there wasn't a ticket booked for you originally, it was a hint that he wanted it to be a trip with just him and his friend's family. Maybe because it is with his friend's family, if you're not close with the family he felt a bit awkward. But when you were upset, he booked the ticket.
He may be using the "What? You don't trust me?" to also hint that maybe he wanted it to be a trip just him and his friend's family. Maybe he wanted this once in a lifetime chance to be with his friend.
Sometimes, don't you want to do things without him? There are some things I want to do with my friends without their significant other being there. This may be what is going on... just one suggestion.
Another option, may be that there are other things you've done where he felt you didn't trust him. So this is just another instance, but he decided to say something about it.
Many, many possibilities and only one way to find out... you know what it is: talk with him.
2007-09-24 23:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Elisa-chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then he is the one confused.. if he is saying this.. u should tell him wow i dunt think that u have given me a reason NOT to trust u.. also u should talk to him and ask him what he is feeling so u know where the two of u stand and explain to him that u would rather go with him then with some stranger when u are going on the trip and that it is a once in a lifetime trip..
if he goes on saying he loves u to come.. then also u can play it cool and go like.. ok thanks.. then if he says something else like u dont trust me.. fire away and tell him then why did u say that it was ok.. and u would love for me to come with u?
GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-24 23:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Chiv D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if I was You I would want to go to. Maybe you'll find a way to get past the trust issue on the trip. Have a good time!
2007-09-24 23:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by DANNY M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are a number of religions. Believers in one brush aside each and all the others. they can not seem to ascertain that all and sundry faiths are the two unjustified, inspite of the reality that it would seem that some thing like Scientology is even much less lifelike. so a techniques as i'm in contact, Paul is the Hubbard of Christianity.
2016-10-19 21:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just wrote, that you want to go because you want to go. I have a feeling that there is some history of mistrust or something of the like. He wouldn't have said that without some other prior events.
2007-09-24 23:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by b_mikie55 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you felt left out, and that you wanted to experience the trip with him. Tell him that it had nothing to do with trust, and everything to do with feeling left out.
2007-09-24 23:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesnt want you to go, he probably wants a break. Thats not a bad thing sometimes couples need breaks. I think you should let him go by himself.
2007-09-24 23:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Karen G. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once dated this jerk who said that if we got back together, he would be putting me through a series of tests, I got smart and told him He** no!!!!!
If a guy or a woman wants to put the relationship through a "test" is he or she really worth it?????
2007-09-24 23:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because he was planning on getting laid in Thailand before you decided to go.
2007-09-24 23:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wel there was probably more spoken than that and he felt pressured...trust is something u gain not prove
2007-09-24 23:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by Psychologist In The House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋